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About Beth Berger

Hi there! Finding Delight is a lifestyle and lifelong learning blog written and curated by me in Alabama. Along the way, I attempt to tackle the rough real world with books, budget-livin', brainpower and all the beautiful stuff you can find when you really look. Won't you join me? The true delight is in the finding out.

mid-week round-up

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A poem: 

THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

 — Jelaluddin Rumi, translation by Coleman Barks

Some links: 

Something about people lip-synching just kills me.

From computer girl to computer geek–the masculinization of computer programming.

Cheeky artist trolls museum goers.  

A modern Salem Witch Trial.

Zelda wasn’t “crazy.” 

The power of sweatpants.

A stunning video of a child growing up.

Give homes to the homeless.

Seth Rogen says what we’re all thinking.

Where the poor are most segregated.

Family converts a chicken coop labeled as “teardown” into cozy home.

I’ve gotta buy some spin pins!

And a request:

Hold your loved ones close today. Tell them they mean the world to you. 

FIND DELIGHT IN THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU ❤ 

Bluegrass Stay-cation, Pt. 1

Last week was full of all sorts of adventures in the Bluegrass! Chet came up for his spring break and I took some much needed time off work. I tried to plan a nice balance of fun, budget-friendly activities as well as plenty of chill time. (We plowed through all of True Detective like champs for the majority of the chill time.) Here are some snaps from our Saturday, if you’d like to see…

We started off the morning picking up some ingredients at the Farmers Market…

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…explored downtown and popped into some shops…

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…drove to Leestown Rd. for Pops Resale (record store day) and all the goodies in that strip mall–used book store, toy store, and this giant gem…

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…got lost in the labyrinth within and found lots of scary “deals”…

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…cooked a delicious all-local meal consisting of: bread and cheese, pork chops, green beans and new potatoes…

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Perfect sunny day! ❤

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Do you ever staycation in your own city? Exploring with someone from out of town is a great way to see stuff you wouldn’t otherwise bother checking out! I hope these series of posts can give you  ideas or inspiration for adventures in your own backyard. Just in time for Summer!     

The Best Mac and Cheese (with a vegan trick)

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I’m not ashamed to say it. There are a LOT of vegan foods and recipes that I love. My mom, sister, and lots of dear friends and co-workers subscribe to the vegan lifestyle and diet. As someone who can’t quite quit meat, cheese and eggs even I believe there are elements of vegan cooking that can be utilized in any diet.

Vegan recipes (the good ones) can be genius in their sneakiness, tossing in ingredients that you would have never expected–creating a fuller, healthier flavor profile that doesn’t leave you missing out on the restricted animal products.

And where does vegan sneakiness shine the brightest? “Cheese.”

In my opinion, most people have a touch of AOLI-SD (or Adult Onset Lactose Intolerance-Self Diagnosed). So, we stand to learn a lot from these sneak-ingredients.

Here is a recipe  that utilizes some vegan elements while still using some cheese. Best of both worlds! The results are fantastic!!

The secret sneak ingredient in this recipe…

butternut squash

or more accurately…

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Do you see where we’re going with this? The creamy, orangi-ness of boxed mac ‘n’ cheese without the tummy ache and gross mystery powder! Here’s how to do it…

What you’ll need:

– 3 tbsp EVOO

– 1 tbsp all-purpose flour

– 1/3 cup of milk (I used plain soy)

– 2/3 cup of canned butternut squash (you could, of course, do a whole lot of a LOT to use acTUal butternut squash but I don’t think the time intensity of that would be worth it. As always, it’s your life.)

– 1 cup of whatever white, light in lactose cheese you want. (I used shredded Monterrey Jack.)

– 1/8 tsp paprika

– 2 cup of pasta (I used penne because I had that on hand. Obvi lil elbows would have been better.)

and how it all comes together:

– Put your noodles on to boil and let them do their thing. When they’re done, drain and set aside.

– Heat olive oil in a pan on medium. Add your flour and whisk with a fork until it reaches a creamy consistency.

– Take your pan off the heat for a tick-tock and lower burner to low. Add your milk and whisk a whole bunch (for 1 minute). Return the pan to the burner. Keep whiskin’ until the mixture thickens up.

– Add the butternut squash puree and cheese and whisk some more (5 minutes). The more you whisk, the less lumpy it will get.

– Add paprika and whatever other spices you would like.

– Add the cooked pasta to the sauce and mix it all up.

– Enjoy a healthy mac ‘n’ cheese with a sneak ingredient that won’t hurt your sensitive, adult tummy! Win-Win, ladies and gents!

Do you know of any recipes that utilize a sneaky ingredient (vegan or otherwise)? Would you try this one? Parents of young’uns seem to be the best at this, don’t you think? Tricksters! The lot of you! ; ) 

Book Club: In Pursuit of WHY it Gets Better Pt. 3

Happy Friday, Delight seekers!  I hope you all have had a fantastic week.  My sister, Beth, asked me to step in this month for the extended reading portion of her virtual book club!  As a self-professed expert and undercover anthropologist of the adolescent and teenage psyche, I jumped at the offer to put my knowledge to good use.

 Why undercover, you ask?  Well, it’s not difficult to see that I can slip into the world of teenagers very easily.  I look young. Just last weekend I was asked if I would prefer a child’s menu at a restaurant.  In one month I will begin playing a role which is a whopping 10 years my junior. I get carded every time I try to go to an R-rated movie.  Therefore, it is incredibly easy for me to slip into the pubescent mind set and see firsthand the effects it could have on an individual.  I can’t even count the number of times I got the up and down look from high school girls at the mall while shopping for an Easter dress just yesterday afternoon! Being a 23 year old woman, it didn’t affect me (“Honey, in 8 years you’ll want to wear an old man sweater, too,” my mind said with a hearty chuckle…), but imagine if I had been the 16 year old that they believed they were judging!  It could tear a girl down!  I am using this research and my own experiences to write a musical about a girl’s battle to find her true self.  And we all know that I am utterly obsessed with coming of age stories.  I believe they are one of the great human connections that bring us together as a species, because every one of us has gone through the trying time that is adolescence. Therefore, reading this book has been a (wait for it…) DELIGHT, and I would be honored to share with you some extended reading to further enhance your experience and knowledge.  Let us journey together through the cafeteria fringe…

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 Let’s start with some further reading about the book and Robbins’ Quirk Theory from around the web:

An interview with Robbins on Live Science, an educational website targeted at students.

A review on the book by New York Times reviewer and Journalism professor, Jessica Bruder.

And of course, NPR has nothing but good things to say!

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Now on to my literary bread and butter…coming of age stories that highlight personal discovery and becoming comfortable with who you truly are:

 Stargirl by Jerry Spinelli

 An Abundance of Katherines by John Green

 The Virgin Suicides by Jeffery Eugenides

 The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky

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Not feeling like cracking the spine of a novel?  That’s ok too:

Non-fiction:

Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman – The book that launched a thousand gifs by inspiring the CLASSIC movie, Mean Girls.  Forever one of my favorite works of cinematic genius.  Thank you, Tina Fey.

Poetry:

The Realm of Possibility by David Levithan – I read this collection of poems while I was performing Spring Awakening every night…talk about getting me in the right state of mind!  Angst!  Heartbreak! Drama!

 Plays:

Spring’s Awakening by Frank Wedekind – I could write a 30 page paper about…oh wait. I did that my senior year of high school.  Just read it and then listen to the cast recording of Spring Awakening the musical and let your inner 14 year old laugh and cry along. Because it really is just the bitch of living.

 The Metal Children by Adam Rapp

 Speech and Debate by Stephen Karam

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 And finally, Alexandra Robbins has many more books for you to read, because life actually does go on after high school!  I know which one I’m checking out of the library next:

 Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities

 The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids

 Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges of Life in your Twenties

 Secrets of the Tomb: Skull and Bones, the Ivy League, and the Hidden Paths of Power

Happy reading, and CONGRATULATIONS!  If you’re reading this, I am proud of you.  Why?  Because you got through the trying time that is adolescence. It was probably really hard.  It probably changed how you acted and how you viewed yourself.  You probably lost friends. You probably felt some really intense and angsty things, and probably acted on them.  But you made it, and you became an incredible, ever changing human being.

-KT

Thanks so much, Katie! Wanna get involved in the Finding delight. book club? Email me: ebeth.berger@gmail.com. Let’s talk books! ❤ And tune in next week for my final review. 

mid-week round-up

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Hello dolls! I don’t know about you but my throat and sinuses have spent the last week revolting against the pollen count and weather fluctuations. Argh! Not to mention, it SNOWED yesterday AND I was at work ’til after midnight. Double argh. Luckily, I have an exciting staycation planned starting on Friday with special guest star, Chet. I can’t wait!!! Posting may be a bit intermittent and slowed so bear with me. I shall catch you up on all the hikes, food, events and bourbon as quick as I can. And in the mean time, you can follow me on Twitter here and Instagram here, if you’d like. Happy Spring, Happy NFA, Happy Easter! ❤ Now on to the links…

Could you go one month without your phone?

Chia seeds are basically magic.

Lisa See, author of “Snow Flower and the Secret Fan,” has a new book coming out in June!

An oral history of Nickelodeon show, “All That.” (In case you weren’t feeling old already today, this show first aired 20 years ago!)

Real advice on marrying smart.

A father communicates with his autistic son through Disney. (Warning: Longform tear-jerker.)

Parents are nerds too!

Yep, this is a pretty great trailer. Can’t wait for this movie!

Inside a woman’s mind during a Target trip.

The President’s journey to same-sex “I do’s.”

I have a crush on this apartment.

An American folk artist paints a mountain.

P.S. New feature! I finally realized setting these links to open in a new tab would make this round-up thing a whole lot more fun and navigable. Duh! Hope it helps. : )

P.P.S. Have a lovely rest of your day and thanks for reading my little corner of the interwebs. It sure means a lot to me.

DIY: Baking Soda Face Mask

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The other day, in a fit of uncharacteristic girliness, I found myself wanting to impulse buy some rather expensive bottle of gobbledy-gook. In this particular instance the gobbledy-gook was exfoliating face mask. Lucky for me, my love of ballin’ on a budget far outweighs my love of beauty products. I had a feeling I could get what I was after with items I already had on hand at home. After a little Google research I came up with a mask that just uses baking soda and water. I’m pretty obsessed with baking soda because it seems to be able to do everything! Check it out–

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What you’ll need:

– 2 tablespoons of baking soda

– a little bit of room temperature water

– a bowl to mix those 2 things in

– water from the tap to wash the mask off your face

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and how it all comes together:

– Scoop 2 tablespoons of baking soda into a little bowl and add a few drops of water.

– Stir until the two ingredients reach a paste-like consistency.

– Rub this paste mixture all over your face (not in your eyes though, ya dummy) and let it set ’til it dries. It’s fun to make the face pictured below to watch all the cracks happen ~ I’m a child.

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– Wash the dried mixture off your face with warm water from the tap and gently pat dry.

VOILA! Girliness achieved– but without the crazy chemicals and excess waste that seem to be synonymous with the products marketed at us.

Pro tip: Just go ahead and always have the following things on hand–baking soda, vinegar, witch hazel, Dr. Bronner’s Soap. Hacks galore! ❤ What do ya think? Would you try it? 

Netflix recommendations.

What to watch after a tough day at work…

Drinking Buddies

Why I loved it:

– If you, like me, work in the company of hipsters everyday; you will recognize every character.

– The entire film was improvised! WHUT?!

– Pairs so perfectly with a 6-pack of West 6th beer.

– Admit it: Mumblecore is just so damn relatable.

20 Feet From Stardom

Why I loved it:

– It takes a village to create awe-inspiring, catchy, successful music.

– The Academy certainly liked it. (This film won the 2013 Oscar for Best Documentary.)

– Merry Clayton Radio has become a go-to Pandora station.

– Don’t we all, sometimes, feel like the Claudia Lennear to someone elses Mick Jagger?

What have you been watching on the ‘flix lately? Movies are one of my favorite ways to unwind! 

Book Club: In Pursuit of WHY it Gets Better Pt. 2

This month in the Finding delight. virtual book club we’re traveling back to the world of cliques and cafeterias with the help of Alexandra Robbins’ journalistic prowess in The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School. This week, I’ve found some extended watching–in the way of interviews, movies and other internet gems–to help us nail down the answer to our over-arching questions: Why do things get better once you’ve taken off that high school cap and gown? How did our own differences suddenly elevate our social experience when before they felt so demoralizing? Check out the videos and review the questions raised throughout this post…remember, we’re traveling back to high school here so there may or may not be a test. ; )

More with Alexandra Robbins

An interview with the author herself in which she discusses why cliques are so prevalent, how schools help instead of hinder the teenage social hierarchy and what parents can do to dissuade their kids from feeling like social outcasts…

What would you tell a high schooler today if they confessed they feel flawed for not fitting into the social in-crowd? 

Robbins delivers a quick PSA on why “You’ve got to be proud to be an outsider.” She rattles off a laundry list of now famous individuals who identified with the outsider label as children or young adults. Now that I’m far enough into “Geeks” to feel like I really know the youth Robbins follows for a year, I have begun to recognize the qualities in their teenage selves that really COULD set them apart as adults. In this video, Robbins talks about Taylor Swift being ostracized in middle school for her intense love of country music. Similarly, the outsiders have qualities which will no doubt put them ahead of the pack in terms of employment, relationships and all sorts of social standing metrics.

Being different makes you awesome and some day people are gonna appreciate you for who you really are.” 

What qualities do you exhibit which exemplify Robbins’ “quirk theory”? Can you think of more examples of individuals who went from outsider to success story?

And just for fun, here is Alexandra Robbins on The Colbert Report discussing another book she wrote about high schoolers–The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids.

How do you think this quest for academic success/college acceptance as end goal affects social inclusion/exclusion? 

Cinematic Renderings of the High School Experience

My top 5 favorite “High School Movies”:

1. Ferris Bueller’s Day off

2. 10 Things I Hate About You

3. The Breakfast Club

4. Mean Girls

5. crazy/beautiful

 

And if you have a lot of time on your hands just watch all of Friday Night Lights!

What do these films get right about the high school experience? What do they get wrong? What’s your favorite movie about high school? Is there a movie that shaped your own teenage experience simply because it was about teens and you watched it WHILE you were a teen? #meta 

Remembering the Past/Help the Future

In the end, this book strikes a cord with so many because we’ve all been there. While it may be easier to come out the other side and benefit from “quirk theory,” I’d like to challenge you to peek back through that tunnel at the person you were. Have an old VHS tape of a choir competition? Watch it. Did you keep a journal full of poetry and essays? Read it. Look through old photo albums, class assignments, defunct for a decade Livejournals. This little trip down Nostalgia Boulevard could hold valuable information for how you interact with struggling teenagers in the future. It’s easy to put the past behind us and just say “Yeah, high school sucks but it gets better.” But a more concrete answer can be a lot more enlightening. After my own excavation of high school artifacts I’ve found this example: Yes, it was crazy weird that I felt the need to deliver a rather dramatic monologue for a talent show Fall semester of my freshman year of high school. Considering all the popular kids treated speaking in public like a joke and were more focused on sports than spotlights, this was in-crowd suicide. Yet, fast forward four years and speaking in public would get me into college and earn me all kinds of resume boosting awards. Fast forward four more and things like job interviews and work-place negotiations feel like no big deal. With the clarity of over a decade’s removal from that example I can see the difference between me and the in-crowd, in that instance, was bravery.

And now that we’ve isolated some of the things which made us unique in high school and thought of concrete examples for “quirk theory” in our own lives, the final extended watching I would like you to do is….real life, current high schoolers. Go support some kids. As I’ve said before, the school system is doing everything it can to support exclusion by putting certain kids, groups and extracurriculars on a pedestal. Let’s strive to counteract this trend by building up the kids who are different in similar ways to our high school selves. Judge a speech tournament. Go to a play. Buy a piece of art. Donate to a gaming club. Speak at schools about your job. Coach something. Volunteer. Talk to kids about their interests. Cheer for the marching band. Got more ideas? Leave ’em below! I think we can all commit to doing one of these things this month. : ) Let’s do it! 

If you could write a letter to your high school self what would it say? If you could sit down with one group of kids and READ them your letter to yourself who would they be?

 Dear Mr. Vernon, we accept the fact that we had to sacrifice a whole Saturday in detention for whatever it was we did wrong. But we think you’re crazy to make us write an essay telling you who we think we are. You see us as you want to see us – in the simplest terms, in the most convenient definitions. But what we found out is that each one of us is a brain…and an athlete…and a basket case…a princess…and a criminal…Does that answer your question? 

~The Breakfast Club~ 

 

The Case for Chromebooks

A few months back, as I twisted my laptop’s charger round and round for ten minutes patiently waiting to hear the beep letting me know it was actually charging, propping a pillow under the cord JUST. SO., and trying to work as motionlessly as possible to not upset this careful balance –I succumbed to the idea that it might be time for a new lappy. Putting old lappy out to pasture was a stressful notion…mainly because I feel hopelessly clueless about all things technology and have a terrible time making decisions (especially when they involve spending money). I didn’t want to live lappy-less for weeks on end as I waited to make up my mind. I also never necessarily believe that more expensive is better…surely there was a better option than dropping a few G’s on a machine. Thankfully, I received some much needed tech advice. And because I think the words of wisdom I received could be valuable advice for all of my budget conscious readers, I asked Chet Breaux to share it with y’all, too! It’s great to have a tech guru on speed dial. ; ) Enjoy!

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Chet: I’m writing this post using a Chromebook. What’s a Chromebook? You may have seen them advertised recently and thought “that’s just a tiny laptop!” You would be correct, but not necessarily about the tiny part. Chromebooks are a new kind of computer that runs the Chrome operating system. If you’ve ever used Google’s Chrome browser, the setup of a Chromebook will look remarkably similar. So what’s the big deal? Why should you care?

First, Chromebooks are inexpensive. They aren’t “cheap” as many tech bloggers have been quick to claim. My machine, an Acer A7, set me back just under 200 dollars. It has an 11.6 inch screen (small, yes), an Intel processor with Haswell architecture (more on this later), and a 16 gigabyte internal hard drive (tiny right?). How can I get anything done on this thing? It’s actually easier than you might think.

Google launched this project because they know a thing or two about the internet, and, more specifically, how people use the internet. Their analysis of Chrome browser users indicated that people were spending a whopping 90% of their time on a computer in the browser. Suddenly, a machine built around a web browser makes much more sense.

Let’s go back to my Chromebook, which seems to have very limited specifications. First, the size. It’s small. Is it a problem? Not really. I have very large hands, but I’m still able to type normally. The small size also means light weight, clocking in at about 2 pounds. This machine is perfect to travel with (no more super heavy bag). The Intel processor is slow, but that’s not important. Most desktop processors, and even many laptop processors, are overkill for what most people actually need a computer to do. The processor in my machine can easily run high def video and keep up with quite a few open browser tabs. Oh, and the small internal storage? Google will automatically give you a huge amount of cloud storage for free for a couple of years (don’t worry, that storage doesn’t cost much after your trial expires, and you are essentially paying for cloud backup, which everyone should have). You’re also getting a solid state hard drive. That means instant wake from sleep and about 20 seconds to boot.

Should you consider getting a Chromebook as your next laptop? Absolutely! Unfortunately, a lot of people in the tech industry have taken to bashing these machines and comparing them to netbooks. Dan Ackerman recently reviewed a new Chromebook manufactured by Toshiba. He’s making a lot of the same complaints I see in other Chromebook reviews. Yes, you have to be connected to the Internet, but so what? I’m not sure who they are speaking to with comments like these. I work at a University and have a home Internet connection. I don’t work in the middle of a field. Yes, it’s made of plastic. So is every other laptop under 1000 dollars. Yes, it has limited on-board storage, but that’s kind of a moot point in the streaming age.

What can Chromebooks do for you? Just about whatever you need in a laptop. Google has a suite of services that can easily take the place of word, powerpoint, and excel (plus all of your work is safe in the cloud and can be accessed from any web browser on any computer!) It runs Netflix, Hulu, Spotify, Pandora….In short, I’m not seeing any limitations with my machine, just convenience.

Why do I care so much about Chromebooks? As an educator, I often see students that don’t have easy access to technology, and, I’m sorry- college students NEED a laptop. A 200 dollar Chromebook is a lot easier to afford than an overloaded, overpriced machine that Best Buy normally tries to sell to the parents of college students.  They can succeed with a Chromebook in front of them. I’ve seen it happen. Oh, and if something happens to it, don’t worry. All of your work is safe, and once you can afford a new one, all that it takes is a Google sign in to restore your machine.

I purchased my Chromebook with Chet’s help and couldn’t be happier with it–all of my work is seamlessly saved through my Google account which allows me to pick up where I left off right from my work computer with no hassle, I’ve yet to find anything I CAN’T do on it, and it didn’t break the bank. Perfect lil bloggin’ machine, in my opinion. What do you think? Do you have a Chromebook? Would you buy one?