Cultivating a Mindset of Success

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The mind is a powerful tool.

Did you know that people who firewalk claim to use the power of thought to control feelings of pain? Indeed, your brain releases dopamine when you’re in a positive mental space, which deals actively with physical pain. Firewalkers also profess the power of meditation to calm down and achieve the ideal state of consciousness. Essentially, firewalking folks embrace the power of the mind over the body.

Of course, there is a catch… firewalking has a lot more to do with what makes a good heat conductor then what makes a good state of consciousness. The mind may not be able to eliminate third degree burns but firewalking is still a great example of what our brains ARE capable of — crowding out fears, bolstering confidence, and GOING FOR IT.

You see, you can never call yourself a firewalker, unless of course… YOU WALK ACROSS THE FIRE!

But leaving the hot coals behind, let’s consider other success stories we’d love to create with the help of our brain. With over 50% of the population feeling dissatisfied in their jobs, perhaps a successful career is high on your list. Let’s chat about it!

Because your mind can drag you down…

When you leave your mind to its own devices, it can become unreliable. You’ve probably noticed how quickly you forget facts and skills you stop using. Your brain is a muscle and lifelong learning is the best way to give it the exercise it needs to stay fit. 

Additionally, your brain is responsible for your mood, releasing endorphin and serotonin – mood-enhancing hormones – as a response to your surroundings. Unfortunately, during the cold season, the short days, freezing temperatures and overall feeling of fatigue can lead to the winter blues. You can find yourself developing a sensation of sadness if you don’t pay attention to the triggers – in winter, it might be the lack of sunlight, but each situation has different triggers. A negative mood can create barriers to success. 

Because there are things you don’t learn at school…

Your mind is filled with the knowledge you’ve gathered over the years. It’s this knowledge you apply every day at work. But there is a big difference between learning factual data and understanding the strategies that lead to success in a given industry. Networking and on-the-job experience are key for unlocking the latter.

[Related: That’s precisely why so many graduates look for positions on platforms like this one –https://gradaustralia.com.au/Graduate-Jobs-in-Western-Australia-WA. They know they need to gain experience to figure out how to best use their knowledge.]

Because success happens when you stop dreaming about it…

Most people believe that success happens to those who deserve it most. In reality, you need to just start doing the damn thing! Put your mind to it and give your dreams your best effort…instead of dreaming about your best effort. Indeed, success is a conscious decision, not an accident.

[Related: https://medium.com/swlh/success-is-a-decision-here-are-5-ways-to-make-it-happen-everyday-daded6bb7814. ]

Training your brain to attract success includes creating a strategy to engage the right opportunities, scheduling your time efficiently, and learning from your mistakes.

I can’t guarantee you won’t, at some point, get burned. But your mind is still a powerful tool for creating success in your career. Use it to:

  • stay motivated,
  • keep negativity at bay,
  • gather experience,
  • make better decisions,
  • and plan your progress!

You got this!

How do you use the power of positive thought in your life? Do you consider a mind over matter approach helpful? How do you cultivate a mindset of success?

P.S. Ready to train your brain for success? Consider A 30 DAY MANTRA CHALLENGE!!!

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Some of My Favorite Life-Changing Products (in case you need more gift ideas…)

December is a popular time for bloggers to share favorites from the year. Today, I thought I’d get in on the action and gush about a few products I’ve found to be especially life-changing. I think any of these would make a fantastic gift, if you’re still looking for ideas, but they also get the Beth Berger stamp of approval as a doodad that has added value to my life in some way. Here we go…

1. Tom Bihn Synapse 19
I’ve talked about this backpack a lot on this blog, and for good reason. The design is absolutely genius and will keep everything you need to carry organized. It doesn’t matter if you’re flying somewhere for a weekend away or just heading to class, this bag is super fun to pack!

2. Staedtler Triplus Fineliner pens
Fine-tipped marker pens are my key to writing neat and fast. Plus, with all the colors these pens come in, it is super easy to create color-coded systems in my notebooks and planners.

3. Tangle Teezer hairbrush 
Ok, seeing is believing with this bad boy. And I certainly didn’t trust the fuss before trying this hairbrush out for myself. I have long, fairly tangle-prone hair and with just a few swipes of the Tangle Teezer all my knots are taken care of. Witchcraft? Probably.

4. Instant Pot
I thought the crock-pot was a thing of beauty and convenience until I cooked beans…FROM DRY…in a matter of minutes with the instant pot.

  • and steaming basket and silicone cover, too
    If you really want to up your IP game, this steaming basket is how we make a protein and a veggie side in one fell swoop, and the cover is great for saving leftovers to reheat the next day!

5. 8-days-a-week planner
A to-do list is only half the battle for me. Once I’ve planned out everything I need to do for the day, I like to take it one step further and plug those to-do’s into a schedule. This planner has the whole day laid out in half hour increments which allows me to see where things can go. I love this puzzle approach.

6. Nomatic compression cube
I’ve tried a ton of packing cubes and this one is by far my favorite! Not only does it slot perfectly down into my Tom Bihn backpack, but the fact that it is two-sided gives me an extra level of organization.

7. Whirly board
This has been SUCH A FUN addition to my workouts over the last couple months. Not to mention a really fun way to get in an active break in the midst of my work day. I just peel myself away from my desk, hop on the board for a few minutes, and PLAY. Bonus: Makes me feel like a badass skater/snowboarder chick.

8. Mask brushes
I try to do a mask every Monday evening. (Set it and forget it self-care FTW!) When I started this ritual, I was just using my fingers to gloop on the masks…which is fine. But then I discovered mask brushes and it was a total game changer!

9. Minimalist wallet
Sometimes I just don’t have a need for a huge billfold and I want to slap a few cards together, throw them in my back pocket and GO. This is the wallet I use for those times. Plus, it even comes with a little spot to tuck a key! Love it.

Do you have any life-changing products you think I should check out? Leave ’em below! 

P.S. The entire 2018 Holiday Gift Guide!!!

mid-week round-up

We’re headed out on our first of two holiday road trips later this week, and I’m super excited to bundle up in the car and head out. (Hope Chet is down to listen to Christmas music and true crime podcasts the whole way!) We’re seeing family, and I’m looking forward to eating some favorite foods and stopping by for a stroll through a holiday lights display. Also, I hope you’ll check out this year’s holiday gift guides; I always love putting them together for you guys. Hope you have a great rest of your week, and here are some links for your Wednesday enjoyment…

If someone surprised me with one of these (filled with childhood photos), I might burst into tears.

The Confederacy was built on slavery. How can so many Southern whites still believe otherwise?

Great inspo for delighting customers.

Only after she was shot did the author of this article begin to understand America’s complicated relationship with guns.

Hidden in L.A. suburbia, wrenching poverty preys on children and destroys dreams.

Reliving my childhood aka talking about Saved by the Bell.

The lady hero’s journey.

[Related: In Pursuit of Female Road Narratives]

The inventor of iPhone autocorrect says, “Sorry about that, and you’re welcome.”

The best movies of 2018 according to The New Yorker.

4 women get a haircut they never thought they’d get.

Don’t know if I love or hate this, lol.

Take 40% Off Your First Month with code HOLIDAY40 at ScentBox.com! Valid 12/10-12/14

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts  you may have missed — My Favorite Websites and Blogs and Book Review: The Binding Chair.

Gift Guide 2018: Fathers, grandfathers, father-in-laws, uncles and any other jolly gents!

Christmas is just around the corner! Today, I’d like to conclude my 2018 Holiday Gift Guide with the final installment. I tried to find items that would suit lots of different folk at various price points. Each gift is something I love or would love giving! I hope you find some inspiration. Happy Holidays!

National parks pass to encourage visits to beautiful places (over 2,000 federal recreation sites to choose from!). (National Park Service, $80)

A one year subscription to a magazine you know he’ll love. (Amazon, $24)

Everyone’s favorite classic gaming system so he can challenge family members to beat his high scores. (Nintendo, $60)

A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman. Because he loves winding down with a good novel and a fine glass of port. (Amazon, $12)

A box filled with all the fixins a true grill master needs to whip up deliciously grilled meats, fish and veggies. (Taste Trunk, $49)

Eliminate the travel “head-bob” once and for all! (GOSLEEP, $40)

Designer fragrances shipped straight to his door (bonus: he gets to choose the scents!). (Scentbox, $45 for 3 mos.)

A glimpse back in time, this functional art would make the perfect addition to his cozy study. (Modern Artisans, $110)

Because he has a bowl of popcorn nearly every night. (Amazon, $27)

A classic pair of jammies. (L.L.Bean, $70)

He thinks music still sounds best on vinyl. (Amazon, $25)

P.S. More gift guides for jolly gents (2016 and 2017) and here’s the whole 2018 gift guide shebang! 

mid-week round-up

What are you up to this week, loves? Chet and I did our Christmas shopping early on Saturday, when stores were less crowded, and celebrated our success with lunch at a favorite Mexican restaurant. Do you still have gifts to gather? Here are my gift guides so far, if you need some ideas! Have a wonderful Wednesday, and here are some links…

Four ways to create healthy habits for 2019.

Getting Hygge with it gifts.

How brothers and sisters shape who we are.

The comfiest slipper. (That bow!)

We love the 90s gift guide.

Living on foot.

Some new Trader Joe’s items to add to your holiday pantry.

A t-shirt celebration of female voices in film. Which would you choose? This is my pick.

A brief encounter that changed the lives of two young refugees.

30 most disappointing under 30. LOL!

Toning down Asian stereotypes in Balanchine’s Nutcracker.

[Related: Ballet nerds like me (I’ve danced Chinese Tea before!), might find this information re: choreography interesting.]

There’s only one good way to email your boss! (Freelancers: Totally works for clients, too!)

P.S. Here’s the link to my 2018 GIFT GUIDES one more time, just in case you wanna keep browsing.

Gift Guide 2018: Brothers, boyfriends, best dudes, husbands and any other groovy guys!

‘Tis the season of giving! Today, I’d like to continue my 2018 Holiday Gift Guide with the third of four installments. I tried to find items that would suit lots of different folk at a variety of price points. Each gift is something I love or would love giving! I hope you find some inspiration. Happy Holidays!

A fun print, because he needs to spruce up the walls of his office and this will conjure fond memories of a recent vacation. (Hello!Lucky, $20 + cost of frame)

A night out at a local axe throwing club…wait, did I say AXE THROWING? I did.

Everything he needs for the perfect sh*t, shower, and shave. (Dollar Shave Club, $5 starter kit and $33.75/quarterly if you want to keep him stocked by way of subscription)

This incredible sleep mask that won’t put pressure on his peepers and encourages restful REM sleep. (Manta Sleep, $30)

Stock the bar cart with a bottle of his favorite bourbon so he can mix up boulevardiers all winter long. (Total Wine, $35)

Christmas-themed slime for ooey-gooey stress relief. (And because he’s still a kid at heart.) (Amazon, $13)

With notes of white cedar, juniper and fig, this candle will cast a soothing outdoorsy scent in his home. (Mersea, $55)

Everything he needs to make juicy, delicious truffle burgers. (Amazon, $62)

A book that will chill him to the core. (Amazon, $10) (This one looks fascinating, too…if he’s not up for something so scary right before bed time!)

A gorgeous overcoat to keep him warm on business trips, plus a pair of super soft gloves tucked in the pockets. (ASOS, $119)

A visual tribute to some of the greatest hip hop songs of all-time, using the periodic table as the framework. Cool and nerdy, just like him. (Etsy, $79)

Because if watching 30+ seasons of Survivor has taught him nothing else, it’s that nothing is more versatile and necessary than a good buff. (And this one is super warm for all those non-island outdoor adventures.) (Etsy, $15)

P.S. Last year’s gift ideas for the guys in your life!

Gift Guide 2018: Mothers, grandmothers, mother-in-laws, aunts and any other sophisticated gals!

‘Tis the season of giving! Today, I’d like to continue my 2018 Holiday Gift Guide with the second of four installments. I tried to find items that would suit lots of different folk at a variety of price points. Each gift is something I love or would love giving! I hope you find some inspiration. Happy Holidays!

Print physical copies of her most-loved Instagram snaps (think: grandkids, her pups, and recent family vacations).

New walking shoes because she believes in the power of a daily stroll around the neighborhood. (Amazon, $73)

As Isak Dinesen says, “The cure of anything is salt water – sweat, tears, or the sea,” and this scent will remind her of being by the ocean. (Mersea, $32)

Maybe a bit of an unconventional gift, but nothing says “I love you” like turning someone on to a natural deodorant that actually works, amirite? (Native, $24)

A bucket of Maltesers, which makes any movie watching experience more enjoyable…even if you need a rather LARGE purse to sneak them into a theater. (Amazon, $25) Pair with a DVD or tickets to see a new film, just the two of you!

This  journal has so many sweet prompts to help build an attitude of gratitude! (Erin Condren, $12)

A scarf for all her future travels that comes with a neck pillow hidden inside. Genius! (Sleeper Scarf, $35)

Her door would look so whimsical decked with this cheeky wreath. (Target, $25)

You both agree with the Washington Post, “There is no one quite like Barbara Kingsolver in contemporary literature.” (Amazon, $19)

A food photography class, so she can slay the social media game and showcase the spoils of her culinary prowess. (Creative Live, $74)

Finally, a cozy long-sleeve tee with a powerful message to always be considerate of others and try to make the world a better place — something she embodies entirely. (Cents of Style, $30)

P.S. Last year’s gift ideas for the moms in your life!

Gift Guide 2018: Sisters, girlfriends, best friends, wives and any other lady loves!

‘Tis the season of giving! Today, I’d like to kick-off my 2018 Holiday Gift Guide with the first of four installments. I tried to find items that would suit lots of different folk at varying price points. Each gift is something I love or would love giving! I hope you find some inspiration. Happy Holidays!

Schedule a wine tasting or take her for a flight of beers at your favorite brewery and give her the gift of not having to make a decision.

2018 has been a *LONG* year — but you know what’s kept her going. (Cents of Style, $40)

She finally has a backyard and is already daydreaming about fire-pits and fireflies. (Wayfair, $59)

A collection of sheet masks for luxurious self-care weekends or to tuck in her roller bag for some pampering at the end of a long day on the road. (100% Pure, from $6)

Nail polish in 6 seasonal shades that will glow, shimmer, and shine! (butter London, $36)

A unique bracelet that is equal parts effortless and statement piece. (Moorea Seal, $54)

Champagne chocolate truffles…need I say more?! (Taste Trunk, $6)

For pinning on her winter coat as a (not so) gentle reminder to passersby that her third eye is WIDE open, y’all. (Hello!Lucky, $12 – 100% of the proceeds go to the ACLU!)

This Pulitzer Prize winning novel that reads like pure poetry. (Amazon, $14)

A non-electric portable slow cooker (what?!) to make her planet loving heart soar! Oh, and works wonders for tailgating, too. (Amazon, $35)

Because who doesn’t love a dress with POCKETS? And this one is especially sweet and comfy. (Jane, $25)

P.S. Looking for even MORE inspiration? Full gift guides from 2016 and 2017. Enjoy!

mid-week round-up

Hello! I hope everyone in the States had some nice time off for Thanksgiving. We went to Kentucky for most of the week and spent time with my mom as well as our friends. We ate, shopped, and laughed! I am so grateful that we live closer to family and friends then we did down in South Florida. Bring on Christmas travels!! Now, I’m back into the swing of things with regular life and today I have plans to get a flu shot (BOO!) and start putting up some Christmas decor (YAY!) What are you up to?

Made me laugh.

“The enterprise of writing a book has to feel like walking into a cathedral.” – Barbara Kingsolver’s 5 writing tips.

[Related: Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver is out now…and on my Christmas list, lol]

Reusable coffee cups? Tote bags? Here’s the truth about what you can do to be more climate-friendly.

Are people still having sex at work? An investigation.

Here’s how long it would take you to poop a lego.

What Christmas looked like 100 years ago.

The world’s most nutritious foods.

Upgrades that make your kitchen a more comfortable place to hang out.

[Related: Tips and Tricks for Surviving a Tiny Kitchen]

Amanda, please.

[Related: Amanda’s sticky fingered past.]

Monica Lewinsky explains why she participated in a new docuseries on the Clinton affair.

How to hygge.

Thinking of ordering this to start in January, thoughts?

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Healthy Grocery Haul and 18 Movies to Watch When You’re Hibernating.

2018 Holiday Gift Guides: COMING SOON!

The Finding Delight gift guides for 2018 are right around the corner! The first guide, for Sisters, girlfriends, best friends, wives and any other lady loves! will go up this Thursday. I’ll update this post with links as each gets posted, but until then, I wanted to give you a run down of when to expect each guide. I hope you’re as excited as I am!

Gift guide for lady loves! (Coming: Thursday, Nov 29)
Gift guide for sophisticated gals! (Coming: Friday, Nov 30)
Gift guide for groovy guys! (Coming: Tuesday, Dec 4)
Gift guide for jolly gents! (Coming: Tuesday, Dec 11)

+ this year I’m going to do a round-up of some of my favorite life-changing products that I think would make FANTASTIC gifts (just in case you’re still looking). This will drop after the others!

And in case you’d like to get a head start — here are my gift guides from 2016 and 2017!
Eeps!!! It is my favorite time of year. *3 cheers for gift guides*