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6 Secrets for More Fulfillment In Life

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Finding fulfillment in your life can be tricky. You might be too busy or stressed in your professional life, which impacts fulfillment in your personal life. Or maybe you’re too exhausted to put in the effort to seek out what fills you up and brings you joy. You wonder if you could – and indeed should – be doing more, especially if you want to feel more fulfilled. Let’s talk about some baby steps that don’t take much energy or time —

Broaden Your Mind 

Reading either fiction or nonfiction is a fantastic way to feel more fulfilled in your life. Regardless of the type of books you prefer – whether sci-fi, fantasy, romance, general fiction, or autobiographies – you’ll find something that can teach you about the world, and even yourself. 

You can also take this passion for reading and share it with friends, family, and strangers. Anyone touched by a specific passage in literature knows how rewarding it is to share it with others. So, share what you’ve read with others and make the most of what’s written. 

Help Others 

Anyone who has spent time giving donations or volunteering will tell you how rewarding it is. This gives you the chance to give back to the community and see the world from a unique perspective. Especially if you have spent too long feeling comfortable in your home. 

Often, people don’t understand how much others struggle. Volunteering can completely change your viewpoint. But, you don’t even need to follow the charitable route to help others. If you have friends and family in need, you can take steps to help them too. Offer them a ride to work, ask if they need any help with shopping or any household repairs. 

Don’t Be Afraid to Say Yes

If you go through life avoiding anything that feels a little uncomfortable, then you are not going to get the full life experience. Too many people will say “No” to new opportunities, whether from fear or disinterest. But, the less afraid you are to say “Yes,” the more experiences you’ll have during your life.

Of course, not all these experiences will be good. Some may be boring, or some will be ones you wish you’d never bothered trying. But, they are all part of experiencing life, and the chances of you stumbling across something you love are much greater. Saying “Yes” more often will get you out of your comfort zone and out of the house, so try changing your attitude when people ask you to join them on an adventure. 

Fight for Something 

Picking something to fight for can feel overwhelming. There is so much change that’s needed in the world, and there seems to be a different advocacy focus each month. You have things like climate change and social injustice, as well as a plethora of other issues that could become the hot topic next week. 

Despite this, it’s fulfilling to fight for something. Consider taking a leaf out of the same book that Cynthia Telles lives by and choose something close to home and close to the heart. This can make it easier to decide what you want to fight for, and you’ll have a reason for fighting for it, too. 

Stop Panicking 

If you suffer from chronic worrying, you will never find the happiness or fulfillment you need in your life, and this can be a problem in more ways than one. You never feel at ease in life; you’re always panicking about what might go wrong next. 

Such an approach can cause innumerable stress and anxiety and it means you’re always thinking of the negatives before anything else. Not only will this poison your mind frame, but it also means you’re less willing to make changes in your life. 

Make The Most of Relationships 

From family to friendships to co-workers, and even people you pass on the streets, everyone experiences small and major relationships every day. If you want to find fulfillment, you need to make the most of these relationships. 

It costs nothing to be kind, so embrace kindness and treat others with respect. Besides this, you should also stop taking your relationships for granted to help you realize what you have.  

Everyone deserves fulfillment their life. Not everyone’s the same, though, and this can make it feel as if you will never find the right approach for you. This is not true. There are many options for you to consider that will make you feel like you’re doing something good. You will find your path! 

Mindfulness: Not just for monks and yogis!

We’re all wondering if quarantine will ever end, but until it does, we have some prime time to get to know ourselves.

When someone says mindfulness, what do you think of? Do you think of monks in a temple wearing robes in silence, or people sitting in full lotus position meditating for hours on end? It would be understandable if you did. 

However, mindfulness isn’t just for ancient religious practice, it’s also a secular therapeutic method designed to settle our thoughts and reduce everyday stress and anxiety so that we can better focus. Regardless of what you’re into, jogging, debating, or being a lifestyle blogger; mindfulness can help support you and improve your potential. Think of it this way – driving a car is much easier once you’ve had a few lessons. Before that it’s almost impossible. 

But on the road of life, the vehicle you’re driving is not a car – it’s yourself, and mindfulness is the way you learn how to skillfully read the signs of the road and perform tricky maneuvers. So how does it work? Your mindfulness practice can begin as you read this blog post. You’re reading the words and you’re thinking about what they mean. So you’re doing two things. Bringing awareness to these two things is mindfulness. You are aware of what you’re doing. 

Another way to practice is to bring awareness to your breath. You are slowly breathing in and out. The very fact of that is amazing, but your awareness of it? That’s mindfulness. 

Here are a few more ways to practice mindfulness in your everyday life…

Walk in nature 

Take some time to visit  nature near where you live. Try out some mindful walking, that is, bring awareness to each step you take. Find a rhythm that suits you, then turn your awareness to other things. What sounds can you hear that you might have missed if you were lost in thought?  Impressions you encounter in a mindful state are more likely to resonate with you and others. 

Apply it to a craft 

If you already do a craft like knitting, model making, or paper folding then you probably use mindfulness all the time without realizing it. It’s that controlled awareness you bring to your subject. If you don’t do a craft then taking one up can be a great mindfulness practice. Not to mention, you can always feel satisfied with achieving an end product – something you have made yourself. But now you know that the process to achieving that final product is just as rewarding.

Use it in conversations 

Mindfulness is very effective in conversations with people, because mindfulness doesn’t only mean being mindful of yourself. Instead of thinking about what you’re going to say next, why not reflect on what has been said already – then respond. Bringing awareness to your conversations is a wonderful way to improve your interactions, and relationships, in a fun, creative way. 

When do YOU practice mindfulness? Do you find it difficult or rewarding?

P.S. Hobbies to try if you’re a creative soul.

A great conversation starter…

Imagine: You’re catching up with a dear friend over a mug of something warm. You’ve already run through the past week and a half of activities, all the annoying things your boss has said recently, and your thoughts on a new-to-you podcast. You’re not ready to part ways just yet but…topics are waning.

What do you do?

May I make a recommendation? Why not ask…

What’s the best thing you’ve won?

As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, one of my New Year’s resolutions was to ask more thought- or conversation-provoking questions, and this one has quickly become a favorite.

Ask your partner when you’re out on a date. Ask your co-workers in those just-got-to-work moments when no-one wants to actually start working just yet. Ask all the guests at a dinner-party and go around the room taking turns telling all. (Hey, it’s not bragging when everybody’s doing it!)

The answers may surprise you.

And YO! There’s no reason I have to keep my convo-startin’ questions IRL, is there? So I wanna know, dear reader (THAT’S YOU!): What’s the best thing you’ve won? COMMENT BELOW and tell me everything.