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mid-week round-up

How’s it going this week, loves? My mother-in-law is in town visiting, and I just returned from a trip to Lexington to see my mom! (It’s so nice to be closer to family now that we’re in Alabama!) Do you have any out of town visitors on the horizon? What about vacations? Let me know in the comments below! I’d love to know what you’re up to this summer. But before you head on down to the comment section, see if any of these links strike your fancy…

The big business of Gwyneth Paltrow.

Ready to take your Instant Pot to the next level?

Photos of people having really rubbish holidays.

Do you think you have an accent?

The most comfortable bra in all the land.

“What I learned writing 750 words a day for 100 days.”

Related: One dish a day.

Are your friendships bringing you a boost or bringing you down?

What Netflix can teach us about life.

Will you see this movie?

A necessity for all purses and backpacks (if you love the environment but also iced coffee).

2 amazing poems by my pal, Maggie.

BD Wong doesn’t want fame. He wants success.

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Everything You Need to Know to Find Your Blogging Niche and Two Poems.

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Escape from the Quiverfull movement.

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Yesterday, I read an excerpt from Vyckie Garrison’s remarks to American Atheists about her escape from the oppressive confines of the Quiverfull movement. Much like reality TV’s Duggar family, Garrison belonged to a devout Christian family, their values informed by literalist interpretations of scripture.

The Quiverfull movement is comprised of fundamentalist families who aim to live the biblical model of marriage and child bearing/rearing. The Bible dictates that children are blessings–“As arrows in the hand of the mighty man, so are the children of ones youth, happy is the man who hath his quiver full of them.” As such, couples leave family planning in the Lord’s hands and women willingly remain pregnant, nursing or both for the majority of their adult lives. As Garrison explains:

“Probably the most recognizable and influential Quiverfull family in America is reality TV’s Duggar Family of “Way Too Many and Counting” fame. But unlike fundamentalist Mormons who tend to congregate in just a few places in Utah, Arizona, Texas, etc., you will find Quiverfull families in nearly all types of churches in every community. This is because Quiverfull is not a denomination, with a creed to sign and a church to join. And it’s not technically a cult in the strict sense of having one central leader … instead, Quiverfull is a mindset (a very powerful head trip) in which each family becomes a cult unto itself with Daddy enshrined as the supreme Patriarch.”

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“So this was about political domination. The whole point of having a quiver full of babies is to … out-populate the “enemy,” … that would be all of you; and to shoot those many arrows “straight into the heart of the enemy.” And by that, we meant that our children would grow up to be leaders in all the major institutions of our society. This was our plan for taking back America for God. So the children were like arrows (which is the ammunition) in God’s holy war.”

Garrison goes on to share how, while she initially did not have the language to identify her lifestyle as abusive, her exposure to a “Power and Control Wheel” helped her identify the ways in which she had been manipulated, exploited, mistreated and enslaved. Her story is a compelling one. The parallels between Quiverfull family unit and dad-led cult ring true. (Certainly the manipulation and isolation are present but also the over-arching use of militaristic rhetoric as expression of the group’s mission–a very common and powerful tactic.) I worry about other women in similar entrapment (and their children, too).

I’m glad Vyckie Garrison is raising her voice. You can watch her full speech below. She also blogs at No Longer Quivering.

 

(top photo via here.)

mid-week round-up

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Spring has sprung and I couldn’t be happier!!! Has anyone else noticed a correlation between the rise in temperatures and a rise in social invitations? Everyone is coming out of hibernation, at long last. As for last weekend, I had a magnificent time in BG, KY at the WKU Alumni Work Weekend. I visited several vAry Bowling Greenian restaurants (I started to type them out but then got a little embarr-barr at how MANY places I was able to go in the span of basically 2 days lol), caught up with my WKY fam, and saw fantastic forensics performances. I know, as time continues to pass, that team and those people will always feel like home to me. Now, this weekend is filled to the brim with my favorite spectator sports–the American Forensics Association national tournament and the NCAA FINAL FOUR!!! I’ll be wearing blue with my 4’s held high in the hopes that both the Kentucky Wildcat Men’s Basketball Team and the Western Kentucky University Forensics Team bring championships back to the Commonwealth.

Now enjoy some links in this calm before the storm aka the wildest weekend imaginable for lovers of college basketball and college forensics:

If the movie “Her” occurred in 1995 (featuring Clippy!).

New racially biased hairstyle rules for women in the Army.

This new book about the Kitty Genovese murder is going straight onto my reading list.

…and this ballet book too!

The real dirt on archaeology.

A lesson in time management.

A beautiful story of a dedicated father (right here in Lexington, KY).

Ever wonder what Pamela Anderson is up to these days?

A new dating service.

Great long-form read: The Dead Zoo Gang.

25 facts about my favorite scary movie.

Alcohol hacks.

And a fan’s well-wishes to Coach Cal.

Forever and always–STNJ!!!!!! ❤