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My Recipe for Self-Love

What you’ll need:

  1. SOLITUDE – Spending quality time alone is one of the number one ways we get to know ourselves. And you gotta know yourself before you can even think about loving yourself. When you’re away from the “busy” of everyday life and the external influences that shape you, you can express yourself however you like. So get creative!
  2. AFFIRMATION – When we repeat positive, encouraging messages to ourselves it can change the way that we feel. Toxic thoughts are bound to crop up — no matter who you are! So why not actively try to negate some of that negativity?
  3. INTENTION SETTING – If we never set a target, who is to blame when we miss the mark? Write down your intention for tomorrow, speak your intentions out loud, share your goals with loved ones. Clarifying what we want to achieve not only sets us up for success, but honors our path as something that is important and achievable.

 

And how it all comes together:

-Schedule some time for SOLITUDE. Spend this time getting to know yourself by brainstorming what you love about yourself in the present and what you’d like to improve on or accomplish in the future. You may want to write in a journal or meditate during this process.

-Begin a regular AFFIRMATION practice. Need help getting in the swing of things? Try a daily mirror affirmation for the next 7 days or check out my 30 day mantra challenge. Remember those things you love about yourself in the present? Start telling yourself.

-Now set yourself up for future successes, and new areas to affirm, by SETTING INTENTIONS. Start writing out a daily intention for the following day before you go to sleep at night. Not only will you sleep better, but you’ll start prioritizing based on your own needs and dreams. Self-love (with a dash of productivity) at it’s finest!

Want to go even bigger? Identify 3 intentions for the year to come. Write them out and post somewhere you’ll see every day. A constant reminder that your goals matter and are possible.

Do you utilize SOLITUDE, AFFIRMATIONS, or INTENTIONS to facilitate self-love? What does YOUR self-love recipe look like? Share the ingredients below! 

P.S. Interested in learning more about the power of positive affirmations? Check out my 4-part series on MANTRAS! 

 

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Hello from Louisiana! Chet and I are spending the next few days in his hometown. We were happy to escape Miami for a few days (Spring Break is pretty lit for those traveling in but not so much for those who always reside there, if ya catch my drift!) Today, we’ve already eaten here and seen some art by an acclaimed animator. But I wanted to pop on and say “Hi!” and post a few links for your Wednesday. Hope y’all are having a great week, now get to clickin’…

The last conversation you’ll need to have about eating right.

This French Instagram profile is not what you think it is.

15 things every woman should own.

The tuberculosis hospital that treated America’s Vaudeville stars.

A whole lotta Whole 30 meal inspiration.

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My cat needs this 2-story home.

These pineapple coconut muffins look delicious (and so tropical!).

70 movies you have to watch by the time you’re 30.

Who was she? A DNA test only opened new mysteries.

Back when Pizza Hut was an experience.

5 tips for a budget-friendly bathroom revamp.

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — 30 Boredom Buster When You’re Ballin’ on a Budget and Testing the Amazing, Multi-Purpose Powers of Witch Hazel.

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Happy Valentine’s Day!!! I hope you all are having a love-filled day! How are you celebrating the holiday? Of course today is the middle of the week so must of us are spending the day working. But do you have anything special planned? Chet and I are having a nice dinner at home and will exchange a few surprises. (Eeee!) But for now, here are some links you may want to peruse…

How much an out gay Olympian could mean to a kid now—or to a 34-year-old who’s been waiting for it his whole life.

Related: Winter Olympics Netflix Marathon

A glimpse at Appalachia’s feminist protest music.

This bedroom wall is so magical!

The easiest crusty bread recipe ever. Yum!

My trusty (and super cheap) mini backpack has about had it. Should I upgrade?

Related: Backpacks make for happy backs. ❤

A new report finds that slavery is mistaught and often sentimentalized—and students are alarmingly misinformed as a result.

Small wonder that films about female friendships have traditionally fared so poorly with critics. Look who’s writing the reviews.

Related: Rules for Female Friendship

More and more Americans experience eviction, and gentrification is partly to blame.

Related: Slum Lords aka The Hell of Renting

A brief history of how women got tricked into shaving.

Should I do 100 squats every day for 30 days?

Related: How to Make Your Own Fitness Challenge

Are Busy Phillip’s IG stories making anyone else want to get a rebounder?

Finally, if you have Le Tote, they are having an AMAZING end of season sale. (And if you don’t have Le Tote, you should sign up. <-use that link and get your first tote on me. Seriously!)

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Weekend Uniforms and The Reading Habits Tag.

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What are you up to this week, darlings? While January seemed to drag on forever, February is already flying by. #ShortMonthProblems It will be Valentine’s Day before we know it! Are you planning anything special? I’m trying to do little Valentine’s-inspired things throughout the month to make each day feel special (with some Mardi Gras themed things, too!). Fresh flowers, photo projects, baking treats, and sending out cards have all found their way onto my February calendar. 🙂 Hope your week is extra sweet, and here are some links I scouted just for you…

12 months of self-care in a helpful month-to-month guide.

Related: 10 Ways to Take a Time Out and Practice Self Care

Here’s how Ed Sheeran made 2017’s biggest track.

Iranians asked #Where_Is_She? Suddenly, it seems she’s everywhere.

Jaclyn Friedman sparks a culture-wide rethink about sex, power and what we accept.

How to not die in America.

Wouldn’t it be a delight to grow up in this colorful Dutch farmhouse?

Anatomy of a wild & crazy Saturday night aka breakfast burritos for two.

Related: Breakfast for Dinner

DIY: Wool ball diffuser for the car.

Have you ever tried a yoga wheel? I’m obsessed with mine.

Related: How to Make Your Own Fitness Challenge

Who invented the microwave oven?

A real “very stable genius” doesn’t call himself one.

Packing for 10 days away at a meditation retreat in a Tom Bihn backpack.

Related: What’s in my Tom Bihn Synapse 19 + Side Effect

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — The 5-4-3-2-1 Packing Method and 5 Blogs I Love.

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Hi friends! What are you up to this week? Tomorrow is my birthday!!! No grand plans, just planning on a relaxing day. Last week we ventured up to Savannah for a few days and had a blast hanging out with my brother and sister-in-law! (We ate here and here, strolled around and saw wild animals here, and roasted marshmallows(!) here.) Hope you have a wonderful rest of your week, and here are some links for your reading pleasure…

A tale of two Puerto Ricos: What Trump saw and what he didn’t.

A grandmother, the Nazis, and the shadow of the Olympics.

Multiple women share harrowing accounts of sexual assault and harassment by Harvey Weinstein.

Kristin Enmark didn’t act the way a hostage was supposed to act – and a new psychological disorder was born.

How an English teacher’s quest to meet John Lennon changed Beatles history.

Can I buy these warm-up booties even though I’m just a living room ballerina???

The making of a male midwife.

The Coexist logo is famous on bumper stickers and around the world — but it’s also at the center of quite a few battles.

Katharine Hepburn’s brownies: a recipe for home-wrecking?

Perfect desk accouterments for a home office.

Carmen Maria Machado’s  take on the woman with the green ribbon around her neck.

Related: Now I want to read her book.

The Florida migrant town that FEMA forgot.

P.S. 2 Finding Delight blog posts you might have missed — Our Florida Stay-Cation and What books would you paint on a staircase? 

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What are you up to this week, my loves? As my Whole30 winds down, I’ve been researching ways to bring pizza back into my life in a less gluten-y, dairy-filled fashion. Have you ever tried making a cauliflower crust? It just seems like so much work! Might have to load up on the pre-made version on our next trip to Trader Joe’s. (Can you tell I’m missing celebratory Pizza Friday’s??) Hope your Wednesday is wonderful, and here are some links for your mid-week enjoyment…

The Duffer brothers thought they’d flamed out in Hollywood. Then they came up with Stranger Things.

Another post-Whole30 baked good I’m itching to make.

How the Ikea catalogue cracked what ‘domestic bliss’ means in different cultures.

The bunkers built to survive an apocalypse.

For families divided by the border, there is one place where they are allowed to come together–almost.

Society would be worse without gossip.

Related: I stopped paying women compliments on their appearance and here’s what happened.

A book about a futuristic Joan of Arc that looks right up my street.

Texas prisons ban books by Langston Hughes and Bob Dole – but ‘Mein Kampf’ is ok.

Behind the scenes with YouTube’s De’arra and Ken 4 Life.

How cute are these PJ’s?

A resistance led by celebrities will always be bullshit.

Millions of bananas arrive every week in NYC. It takes a lot to get them from the boat to the bodega.

P.S. A few Finding delight posts you may have missed — Recipe: Banana Nut Baked Oatmeal and Simple Cure: Drink More Water.

P.P.S. Hop on over to my Finding Delight Reader Survey! I’m planning new content and would LOVE your input. Thanks a mil! xoxo

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Hi friends! Did you enjoy the eclipse?? We didn’t have totality (and I didn’t buy the glasses) but it was still a great excuse to go out and frolic in the middle of the day and check out the cool, crescent shadows. Everything felt so still all afternoon. A rarity in Miami. Anyways, I’m getting really excited for Fall. Maybe it’s that back-to-school feeling in the air that has me super excited for new ideas and projects! With that in mind, I set up a READER SURVEY to help me craft upcoming content (and get to know my readers better!). I would be so, so grateful if you would take a few minutes to fill it out. The links will be waitin’ for ya when you get back…

This packing list is totally #goals for me and my sweet lil Tom Bihn.
“You can do it, I believe in you. You will compile a packing system that is stylish, compact, and functional. Because you’re an independent woman who don’t need no 60L pack!”

How cute would these napkins be for an autumn table setting?

The transformation of a Cincinnati neighborhood from ailing to artisinal.

“My family always ‘passed’ as white, until we didn’t.”

An exorcist’s assistant weighs in on demons and exorcism in horror films.

Have you ever used a safety razor? I really want to get one to cut down on my plastic consumption but they also seem kinda terrifying. Thoughts?

Whipping up a batch of these after my Whole 30 is over!

Life aboard the longest train ride through India.

Related: I talked to a woman for 4 hours on the train.

Latin American LGBTQ refugees form caravan while seeking asylum in the US.

If you’re looking for kid gifts, check out the online shop Seedling.

Your life as a middle-aged stripper.

Official body calls for shift in language and approach in an attempt to stop making mothers feel like failures.

P.S. Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Escape from the Quiverfull Movement and Let’s Talk Personality (Tests).

P.P.S. And don’t forget to take the Finding Delight Reader Survey. Thanks!

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How have you been, guys? We had a fantastic time in Savannah celebrating the wedding of our friends Katie & Marc! It was so much fun getting to spend time with them, along with other friends and my family, and experiencing a bit of such a great Southern city. (I’m thinking of writing a post about some of the restaurants we enjoyed while there, if y’all are interested!) They had a beautiful garden ceremony in historic downtown and the reception was at a restaurant overlooking the river. So, so magical! Now that we’re back to reality, I’m slowly but surely getting unpacked and slogging my way through a very full inbox. Beam me back to champagne toasts and Spanish moss, plz!

Links for you…

A horchata-inspired protein shake perfect for summertime breakfasts.

How water affects people attempting to cross the Mexico – U.S. border.
It’s expected that anyone crossing the border will lose access to clean water. Bonds compares the journey to the Hunger Games — and the audience is everyone who watches, especially during this administration, without doing a thing. “You’re hunted,” she says. “Maybe water falls from the sky if you’re lucky on that day. You’re going to die or almost die trying to get here.”

Related: Border Angels leaves dozens of gallon jugs of water in the desert along high-traffic migrant paths. DONATE HERE.

Hulu’s adaptation of Margaret Atwood’s novel lays bare the horrors of collusion with the patriarchy.

So many cute things in the new Cupcakes and Cashmere online store. (Especially these earrings, this candle, and this pillow.)

An open letter to the creators of S-Town.

Books Through Bars distributes free books and educational materials to prisoners. (I love that they have an Amazon Wishlist so it is super easy to donate!)

Related: I’m near the end of Season One of Prison Break and if those dudes don’t bust out soon I SWEAR TO GOD.

Gorgeous copper flatware would certainly elevate your next dinner party (or weeknight meal).

A day in the life of a food vendor.

What began as an attempt at a simpler life quickly became a lifestyle brand. #vanlife
Scroll through the images tagged #vanlife on Instagram and you’ll see plenty of photos that don’t have much to do with vehicles: starry skies, campfires, women in leggings doing yoga by the ocean. Like the best marketing terms, “vanlife” is both highly specific and expansive. It’s a one-word life-style signifier that has come to evoke a number of contemporary trends: a renewed interest in the American road trip, a culture of hippie-inflected outdoorsiness, and a life free from the tyranny of a nine-to-five office job.

Love the idea behind this craft project subscription box!

Buckets of opportunity in Rural America.

Crime, addiction, and religion meet at the greyhound race track.

P.S. Here are a couple Finding Delight posts you may enjoy — Meal Planning for Beginners in 7 Easy Steps and It’s All an Illusion.

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Hi friends! What’s new with you? I finally watched a few more Oscar’s endorsed films over the weekend — Lion and Arrival. Highly recommend if you still haven’t seen them! Monday I was glued to my computer screen as I watched the results roll in from the National Forensics Association’s national tournament in Eau Claire, Wisconsin. Huge congratulations to the students and coaches at Western Kentucky University for taking home the win! I was a very proud Hilltopper. (And may or may not have gotten a little misty-eyed when the news broke that WKU closed out debate finals…as well as when 3 females from the team took top 3 in After Dinner Speaking. #4sup4ever)

I could gush about forensics forever but I’ll get to the links…

Unarmed. Not wearing a seatbelt. Running away. Police are more likely to shoot if you’re black. 

This looks like a fun read if you’re feelin’ wanderlust-y.

Related: My seven travel tips for airports and planes.

People waste years trying not to waste hours, says best-selling author of Moneyball.

Yesterday’s Taco Tuesday inspiration.

After watching Lion, I immediately donated to the International Centre for Missing and Exploited Children. You should too!

Will circular runways ever take off? 

A new generation of hoarders has emerged — and they’re mobile.

A journey from Real World to homeless shelter.

Love Scandal? Create your own hit, prime-time show with Shonda’s help.

Quick, somebody “Saaave” Miami from Estrella Insurance’s sexist ads.

What it’s like to be a cheesemonger.

Related: Don’t Hide Your Hustle.

Take a hair quiz and get personalized shampoo + conditioner sent straight to your door.

P.S. Still feel like reading? Check out these Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Three Fun Office Updates and Book Review: Diamond Ruby by Joseph Wallace.

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Happy Wednesday! I can’t believe it is already March. Did the month come in like a lion where you’re at? I hope you have a great day, whatever you’re up to, and here are a few links to explore (or bookmark for later)…

Rachel Dolezal was exposed as a white woman who had deceived almost everyone she knew. Why did she do it?

15 beautiful illustrations perfectly capture how it feels to be in love.

As automation reduces the need for human labor, some Silicon Valley executives think
a universal income will be the answer — and the beta test is happening in Kenya.

Tucking this podcast away for a rainy day.

A go-to meal for any time of day — but especially yummy at breakfast.

Everyday carry with the Tom Bihn Side Effect. (I totally want one now!)

Related: 3 Ways to Pack Your Tom Bihn Synapse 19

A shirt for those who dream big and hustle hard.

Related: Don’t Hide Your Hustle: Katie KelseyLatasha

10 days along the border.

I’m considering starting a Whole 30 this month and this cookbook came highly recommended.

The enduring portrait of Myspace Tom, the Mona Lisa of profile pictures.

When a woman deletes a man’s comments online.
“It is no surprise to me that online debate has become the international sport of cis white men. Those who are least likely to be negatively impacted by the outcomes of discussions regarding the rights of marginalized people, who are driven by little more than ego and the risk of slight discomfort if society is made more equal, can gleefully jump from post to post, forum to forum, challenging the heartfelt pleas of those most at risk. “Well actuallys” are flung at those working for justice and equality like drive-bys of apathy. And those who are fighting for their lives are then forced to battle each challenger bearing advanced degrees in Google and entitlement in order to prevent the outright dismissal of their lived experience.”

Long-distance Uber & Lyft drivers’ crazy commutes, marathon days, and big paychecks.

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — 10 Ways to Take a Time Out and Practice Self Care and I Stopped Paying Women Compliments On Their Appearance and Here’s What Happened.