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Where Was Your Wedding Ceremony?

Wedding ceremonies always make me think of this poem…

“Two Trees
A portion of your soul has been
entwined with mine
A gentle kind of togetherness, while
separately we stand.
As two trees deeply rooted in
separate plots of ground,
While their topmost branches
come together,
Forming a miracle of lace
against the heavens.” 
― Janet Miles, Images of Women in Transition

Can’t you see it? Two folks at the front, standing proud and tall like trees. Their love intertwining and shooting out far and wide!

If you’re married, I’d love to know – Where was your wedding ceremony?

If you’re not married, where do you picture a potential wedding taking place?

A church? Your backyard?

Here’s more on our wedding venue, if you’d like to see. (And here’s a link to all my wedding posts.) ❤

mid-week round-up

What are you up to these days? My husband is presenting at a conference in Florida this weekend and I’m lucky enough to be able to tag along. We booked a tiny home(!) through Airbnb which I am ridiculously excited about. Would you guys be interested in a post with pics when I get back? Not sure what else we’ll get into while we’re down there, but I’m looking forward to a little change of pace for a few days. Hope you enjoy the rest of your week, and here are some links to peruse…

How organizational guru Marie Kondo gets it done.

In lieu of a cocktail hour, this couple arranged for wedding guests to play with kittens.

Who are the Golden Girls of Prospect Cemetery?

“I know a colonizer when I see one.”

A round-up of yummy Whole30 recipes.

[Related: What I ate during my first Whole30.]

How do you draw an X? (I’m #7.)

A seriously glow-y day/night skincare set, if you’re looking for some pampering.

Eight homes of a 13-year-old former foster kid.

Everything around him burned. He stayed put.

Excited to read this book when it comes out.

[Related: The author’s YouTube channel is all about being in an interabled relationship.]

Lee Friedlander’s intimate portraits of his wife, through 60 years of marriage.

Finally, Mary Oliver (RIP) reading Wild Geese.

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Five Great Poetry Books and 3 Tips for Brides-To-Be.

3 Tips for Brides-To-Be

3 tips for brides to-be

Planning a wedding can be incredibly overwhelming. For one thing, there’s a TON of wedding advice online detailing all the things a bride “must” do. And then there’s a whole host of other folks IRL who will happily weigh in with their opinions.

How many traditions can there be for ONE day? Do we have to complete every DIY from that “Happily ever after…” Pinterest board? Why does everyone want to make this about THEM!? AAAAH!

It’s enough to make a gal wanna call the whole thing off and head for the courthouse! But I believe everyone can plan the wedding of their dreams . Sometimes it just takes a little bit of strategizing…

So, for all my brides-to-be out there, here are my 3 favorite tips to help you cut through all the noise: 

  • Use traditions as a gentle guide not a do-or-die road map. You can have that walk-down-the-aisle moment of your childhood fantasies without needing to be escorted by a parent. You can cut your cake or not. Your first dance can be in the midst of your ceremony. Talk to your partner about what traditions are important to you, which you’d rather skip, and if there’s room for adaptation. You get to create your own version of the day. 
  • Choose three financial priorities. If you’re planning a wedding on a budget, figure out your priorities before diving in with checkbook in tow. Once you’ve picked your big three, you’ll have a clearer picture of what elements you feel ok splurging on and which you can DIY. For example, music didn’t rank in our top three priorities so we went for an mp3 player plugged into a rented speaker to jam our reception playlist. However, if it ranks in yours, you may want to hire a professional DJ or a local string quartet. I wanted a bouquet made by a local florist but if this detail is something you’d rather save on then, by all means, hit up that Pinterest board girlfriend. 
  • Find ways to involve family and friends that go beyond a wedding party. Sure you may want to have your nearest and dearest standing beside you as you proclaim your love, but I’m guessing these folks have a fair few talents besides looking pretty in pictures. The pieces of your big day will hold so much more sentimentality if they were constructed by the people who love you.  Ask them to do a reading or MC or braid your hair or help you pick out table runners. If folks in your life are chiming in with a whole bunch of opinions, they’re likely coming from a good place–they might just be unsure of how to help. Give them a role to fill!

At the end of the day, wedding’s will never go completely as planned. There will be some detail that completely slips your mind…a last minute change or addition you didn’t plan for. But by choosing meaningful traditions, spending on the details most important to you (and saving on all the rest), and getting your nearest and dearest involved–your big day is sure to be a beautiful success!

(Photo above: Sur La Lune Photography)

mid-week round-up

Hello friends! How’s your week so far? Today is my brother’s birthday! (Happy birthday, Andy!) This time next week I’ll be headed to Kentucky to spend a few days in Lexington and then I’m off to Bowling Green for the W.K.U. Summer Forensics Institute. Gotta start turning my attentions towards packing! In the mean time, do y’all have any fun 4th of July plans? I’d love to hear! And here are some links I’ve gathered just for YOU…

You are not an imposter. You belong here.

Growing up in a conservative Christian cult (like “The Handmaid’s Tale” but real life).

So glad this Lexington staple lives on!

Horse-riding librarians were the Great Depression’s bookmobiles.

Have you tried the new fruits + greens line from larabar? They’re really delish.

Everything Queen Elizabeth eats. (A post-brekky gin and Dubonnet? How regal!)

The 21 unwritten rules of flying you’re probably breaking.
“The only acceptable place to fart on a plane is when you are walking through first class on the way to coach.”

The perfect DIY to get you in BBQ season spirit!

On skipping wedding traditions.

For your next board game night!

Made me laugh.

P.S. Finding Delight posts you have missed — Are you a word nerd? and Our wedding reception.

We’re married!

wedding preview 3

wedding preview 2

wedding preview 1

After a week and a half of whirlwind last minute prep in Lexington, Chet and I got married on July 9th at Arts Place. The whole weekend was an absolute dream come true. Chet flew in from Miami on Thursday evening. I immediately whisked him away to enjoy dinner and drinks downtown with a few sweet friends who came in early to help us celebrate. On Friday, my ride-or-die ladyfriend threw me a bridal luncheon (complete with tiny hats), and that evening our tribe gathered at a local park to eat tacos and rehearse the ceremony.

I was a little nervous about getting everything done on The Big Day. The venue had to get set up and decorated the morning of. But these things have a way of working out when you have a crew of family and friends willing to go above and beyond to make sure every detail comes to life. I even had time to slip away to pick up platters of food and cake (from Good Foods Co-op!!) and grab a quick lunch/makeup date with my friend Katie. Meanwhile, Chet spent the day in a basement kitchen cooking a gumbo to feed all our guests!

Before I knew it everything was ready and my mom was twisting my hair into a gorgeous chignon. In my old ballet studio, no less! Chet and I decided to see each other before the wedding. And I’m so happy we had that time with each other to play and shake off the nerves. Our dear photographers/best friends, Carrie and Ganer, expertly ushered us around and kept us laughing.

The ceremony itself was everything I had hoped for. Our beautiful ceremony participants offered up their voices and their love and their signatures on our wedding certificate(!). My sister sang three perfect songs. Our friend Ben was the BEST officiant we could have ever asked for. The care he put into each little detail touched my heart and his words won’t ever be forgotten. 

We ate gumbo, drank local beer and wine, and danced to our favorite songs. Chad and Ganer each gave us one hell of a toast. (I’m still blushing about their kind words.) And afterwards I ate a cupcake baked by my extraordinary mom. She made TWO kinds!

Our guest list was small but full of the sweetest folks you’ll ever meet. Aunts and uncles. Friends who live too far away. Neighbors that have watched me grow up. I was humbled to have each and every one of them present on such an important day in my life.

The reception wrapped up and we kept the party going at a bar just a stone’s throw away. And stayed until closing time…reveling in all the electric love and excitement. (And, like, when you buy a gorgeous dress that you can only wear once…you gotta keep it on as long as poss, right?!)

So, that’s a little overview of how my dream wedding weekend went down. I can’t wait to show you more photos. I’ll do some more detailed posts when I get them, if you’d like! Until then, thanks so much for reading. I’m excited to get back into the swing of things here on the blog!

Photos by Sur La Lune Photography, the very best in the biz! We can’t thank them enough for the care they took with capturing this special experience while also being such an important part of the experience, too. We love you!

 

Hand-lettered love.

*heart eye emoji* I just found the Etsy shop AllieRuth which specializes in hand-lettered and illustrated stationery, mugs and bags. I’m especially loving this shopping tote

fresh is best bag

elegantly simple Christmas cards

comfort & joy holiday card

and a rubber stamp with a very important message…

postman take care stamp

So stylish and graceful, don’t you think? I wish I could buy it all! Go check out the shop, if you feel so inclined. And follow Allie, the designer and owner, on Instagram.

P.S. I’m also swooning over the custom calligraphy and illustration stamps that can be used to make DIY wedding invites! Don’t worry, this engaged lady took note of that one!