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About Beth Berger

Hi there! Finding Delight is a lifestyle and lifelong learning blog written and curated by me in Alabama. Along the way, I attempt to tackle the rough real world with books, budget-livin', brainpower and all the beautiful stuff you can find when you really look. Won't you join me? The true delight is in the finding out.

The Blogger Instagram Accounts You Should Totally Follow

Bloggers already offer a great window into their world. They share insights and offer a peek at their lives in the form of blog posts, which often include beautifully crafted prose and top-notch photography. But sometimes you wanna see what’s going on in their lives in between these posts.

Enter Instagram. A great way for bloggers to share on the fly and show off their photo styling skills!

I’ve shared my favorite FOODIE and CELEB follows but today let me hit you with some Instagram accounts that are near and dear to my heart — BLOGGERS!

You Should Totally Follow —

carrotquinn … who blogs HERE.

taralynnmcnitt … who blogs HERE.

hannahcozens … who blogs HERE.

jjjasuuu … who blogs HERE.

latonyayvette … who blogs HERE.

and stella.blackmon … who contributes to THIS BLOG.

Oh and perhaps you’ll consider following yours truly at BBerg1012 … I blog right here! But I guess you already knew that. 😉 Don’t forget to leave YOUR handles in the comment section, sweet internet friends!! xoxo

mid-week round-up

What are you up to this week? We recently found out that Chet got a NEW JOB! I am over the moon and proud of him, and he is so excited for this new opportunity. It does however mean we are moving…soon. Needless to say this is going to be a busy (and stressful) few weeks. But ultimately we are THRILLED about this new adventure. I’ll post more details in a future post! Until then, here’s some stuff from around the internet that I think you’ll love…

The best decorating advice from 25 people with cool apartments.

The first female cabdriver in NYC was also an actor and director.

Paula McLain tackles another Hemingway relationship and I could be more excited to read!

Ethiopia and Eritrea’s long history with lasagna.

I have a JANE gift card burning a whole in my pocket and I’m thinking of getting one of these book t-shirts. Which would you choose?

The one word to avoid when buying cheap rosé. (Honestly, this is my #1 tip when it comes to ANY cheap wine.)

A round-up of face masks that I’m dying to try.

LOVED this feature about 30 year-old mortician, Miranda! (We used to work together at Good Foods!!)

One of the Brothers Green shares his life-changing method to make fantastic food in minutes for every meal.

Did you know you share brain waves with your bestie?

Dedicated Pacific Northwest plant lovers nurture an indigenous food with ancient roots.

About the weary weaponizing of white women tears.

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Los Angeles Travel Journal and How to Spruce Up a Rental.

Are You Spiritual?

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Readers, do you consider yourself spiritual? No matter what you believe, I’ve sorta come to the conclusion that as long as you are happy to take what works for you and put the rest aside, you will find there is great benefit to be had from living in a more spiritually aware manner. Whatever that may mean to you. For some people that’s weekly trips to church, others it might mean a daily mantra practice, or setting out into nature alone with your thoughts once a month. 

Here are three spiritual practices I try and incorporate in my life —

Keep Your Eyes Open

It can be amazing what you miss when you aren’t really looking – and by that same token, what you can see when you make a concentrated effort to keep your eyes open. Keeping your eyes open simply means you are on the lookout for anything which might spark joy…or delight ;). [I talk more in depth about how I incorporate this practice HERE.]

A friend of mine pointed out that when she started living this way, she was surprised by how the same things cropped up over and over again. So often that they began to feel significant. Her advice? Whether it’s the recurrence of specific angel numbers, a certain theme that seems to reappear in your relationships, or anything – whatever it is, pay attention and see what you can learn from it.

Spread Compassion

Something else which all spiritual traditions share is a focus on helping others and spreading joy and compassion towards them. Learning to do this in your daily life takes time, effort and courage – but you will find that doing so really does make for a much more fulfilling life. If you find that there is some kind of blockage stopping you from doing this, then you might want to think about what you can do to make it easier for yourself. In most cases, it begins with first spreading joy to yourself – so that you can then be more compassionate to those around you. You know what RuPaul says, right? “If you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” CAN I GET AN AMEN? 

Remain Present

One tenet most spiritual traditions agree upon is remaining present as a way to feel more in tune with reality and more at peace. Presence is hard to fully comprehend until you have practiced it. You might think you’re always present in the here and now. While this is technically true, if you’re anything like me, your brain is always moving…even in neutral! Reigning in your thoughts to focus solely the present moment actually takes a lot of work. Who knew!? But it is SO worth it. Of these three principles, this one is definitely where I struggle the most. Got any tips? 

Are you spiritual? What does living in a spiritually aware manner mean to you? 

The Celebrity Instagram Accounts You Should Totally Follow

Are you as obsessed with scrolling through Instagram as I am? I thought so.

The last post in my little IG series featured FOODIES. This time, I’d love to talk CELEBS! I mentioned before that this social media platform feels like a combination of a few of my favorite things — magazines, photo albums, and…well…diaries (what can I say! I’m nosy, lol.)

As someone who used to impulse buy trashy celeb magazines at the grocery check-out counter, following a few of my favorite famous folk is a great (and FREE) alternative.

You Should Totally Follow —

michalabanas … for her stupid memes (that I secretly love) and her goofiness.

kristenanniebell … who I started following during Hurricane Irma but stuck around because how adorable are she and Dax Shepard!? 

parisjackson … because she’s a magical hippie starchild. Exhibit A. Exhibit B. Exhibit C.

busyphilipps … for the Instagram STORIES, of course! But also her cute kids and bestie Michelle.

mindykaling … because she is major style inspo and she’s always down to offer a hilarious look at on set life.

britneyspears … everything about this Instagram is PERFECT and if you’re not following please do yourself a dang favor. (Also, if you love this account as much as me, give this podcast a listen. #obsessed)

Over to you! Leave your fave celebrity follows in the comments below. Oh, and drop your IG handle as well. Mine is @BBerg1012 and I’d love to connect (even though I’m not at all famous, lol). 

mid-week round-up

What are you up to this week? We’re going to make mint juleps this weekend in honor of Derby Day. (This Kentucky girls gotta represent!) I’m always super excited when May rolls around. Such a wonderful time of year! Hope you’re all having a great day and here are a few internet goodies I’ve found interesting these last few days…

A military base home infused with cheerful color.

For years he used fake identities to charm women out of thousands. Then his victims banded together to take him down.

I love the concept behind Jonathan Van Ness’ podcast!

How to help – and not help – a friend with loss.

Why men quit and women don’t.

Amid a fast food industry plagued by sexual harassment, this mother and daughter said “no more.”

Using categories to get organized on Instagram.

I went down a Wikipedia rabbit hole the other night to learn about Mennonites and came across a memoir to add to my list.

How to drink and snack like an Italian on vacation.

This blog is such an inspiration!

Made me laugh.

Finally, Enter HERE for multiple chances to win a rare Himalayan Salt Lamp from So Well!

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — The Secret to Finding Great Deals and Hand-Written Notes.

Book Review: The Binding Chair or, A Visit from the Foot Emancipation Society by Kathryn Harrison

The Binding Chair or A Visit from the Foot Emancipation Society
by Kathryn Harrison

In this historical fiction novel, we meet our main character May-Li at the turn of the last century in China. Early on in the book she experiences the trauma of foot binding at the hands of her grandmother. From here, the book charts May’s path from abusive marriage to her escape to Shanghai. Although she must turn to prostitution as a means of income, her astonishing beauty, bound feet, and quick study of languages allow for speedy upward mobility. Ultimately landing her a husband from Australia.

May becomes a fixture in her husband’s Jewish family and forges a special bond with his niece Alice. The expertly researched novel covers the pair’s journey from Shanghai to a boarding school in England and back to China. Along the way, readers are introduced to other women who have all, much like May, experienced some sort of physical or mental defacement. While at times I felt like the book was trying to cover too many characters, too many stories that didn’t help move the narrative along; this cast of women did serve as a relatable reflection of May’s bound feet to a Western audience perhaps unable to conceptualize the rituals effects.

Even so, The Binding Chair felt broad, both in setting and emotion, in a way that I thought unnecessary and left the narrative feeling incomplete. However, in reading some reviews and articles about the book, others have argued that the enormity of what Harrison takes on in this novel speaks to feelings of diaspora. In a story charting the path of a Chinese woman in a family of Jews this reading would make sense. Conceptually I applaud it but stylistically I found it challenging. 

At the end of the day, while the story was cluttered and the fetishistic scenes regarding foot binding felt a little gratuitous, Harrison does afford readers an amazing investigation into a different world.

Who should read this book – Anyone interested in Shanghai at the turn of the last century and the Chinese ritual of footbinding.

Add to your list if you loved – Snow Flower and the Secret Fan by Lisa See or Daughter of Fortune by Isabel Allende.

Other books by Kathryn Harrison – The bestselling memoir The Kiss about her incestuous love affair with her father.

Guest Post: The Truth About Therapy

Just the other day, one of my students asked me why I, a seemingly well adjusted adult who is the leader of her classroom, would ever go to therapy. She said the word with disdain – therapy– as if it was something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. I chuckled, wondering just how much time I had to enlighten her on all the reasons why I do need it, and why I have been going to a therapist since college.

I’m an open book, someone who is not afraid to share her story or struggles with the general public, but I was not always that way. When I first started treatment for my eating disorder back in 2013, I was terrified about letting the world know that was what I was doing. I covered up my move to New York as a career move (I’m in the arts so it wasn’t a stretch), but the longer I was in treatment and the more I opened up to my therapist, the more I knew I needed to open up to the rest of the world. I needed the walls to come down, and little by little, they did. Now, I can’t imagine my life without being someone who shares what she went through with anyone who asks.

Because I am the passionate, go-getter individual that I am, when I started recovery I set a very high goal for myself. I remember saying the words out loud to my therapist. “I am going to love my whole self, 100% of the time.” She laughed at me. She literally laughed, and said, “that’s an impossible goal, Katie. I’m not letting you set that.” I was angry at her for doubting me. Hey, you barely even know me!! You don’t know what I’m capable of! But it’s true…I would be disappointed every single day when I woke up and looked at myself in the mirror and didn’t fall in love with the broken, changing girl in front of me. She was trying so hard. She also believed that therapy was something that you accomplished, and then you were done. Much like how I viewed recovery when I first began the process. I would quickly learn that, like almost everything else in recovery, it was not that simple.

To an untrained eye, I am recovered. I eat normally, I have restored my weight, I don’t have panic attacks daily, and I’m not a slave to my compulsions like I used to be. But I know that recovery is a lifelong venture that doesn’t end just because you aren’t in treatment anymore. Because of the nature of this ongoing journey, I firmly hope that I am always in therapy. It’s a safe space – a place that taught me how to be open to trying new things, how to speak authentically, and what empathy really means. Most importantly it showed me how to begin a conversation about mental health with anyone who asks, including my students.


Katie Berger is a musician, performer, and teaching artist based in St. Petersburg, FL. She is the writer and composer of Full the Musical, which details one girl’s battle with her eating disorder and struggles with childhood trauma. She began treatment for anorexia in 2013 and is so grateful to her treatment team and the people who supported her through the worst of her illness. She is a mental health advocate and an ear for anyone who might need one.

This guest post was inspired by BetterHelp, a website that makes professional counseling accessible so anyone can get help – anytime, anywhere. If you’re interested in learning more about online therapy , CLICK HERE.

mid-week round-up

What are you up to this week? Chet’s semester is winding down, so I’m excited to kick off SUMMER. (Although I’m already over the heat…might be a long one!) Other than brainstorming summertime adventures, I’ve got a few, fun projects in the works that have me excited to get to my desk each day. Hope you have a great day, and below are some articles and internet goodies…

This apartment tour is a vintage wonderland!

How to ask for advice over email. Enough with the “Can I buy you coffee and pick your brain?” ALREADY!

What most people get wrong about men and women.

How the kidnapping and murder of Ashlynne Mike changed our country’s Amber Alert protocol.

Why L.A. is becoming the new Iowa.

It’s romper season!

5 spring salads best enjoyed alfresco with a glass of rosé.

The most popular YouTube video in Turkey right now is an American porn star eating Turkish snacks.

Made me laugh! 

Related: TV Recommendation – Westworld. (Did you watch the season 2 premiere?)

I’m a sucker for a good organizer.

A quick, no-cook meal prep idea for the week because sometimes you just don’t want to cook, ammiright?

A new movie about debate!

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Movie Recommendation: Carnage and Recipe: Apple Pie Oatmeal.

Is there such a thing as the perfect vacation?

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It’s mid-April as I write this, and for lots of us, now is the time to start thinking about an annual summer vacation. Yippee! It’s certainly an exciting prospect, with downtime from work, and the opportunity for some much needed R & R (either alone or with loved ones in tow). HOWEVER… for many, summer vacations induce anxiety. All manner of things can go wrong, and the idea of a “perfect” vacation is a lot to live up to.

Prep and plan as you might, your vacation may not go the way you expect it to…

  • The weather – torrential rain, wind, cold snaps – where was the sunshine you were hoping for?
  • Grumpy companions – you have taken them away for their holidays, but why do they insist on complaining all of the time?
  • Transportation  – missed or cancelled flights, car breakdowns, other people getting in your way…if only there was an easier way to transport yourself around the world.
  • Sickness – you really should have learned the lingo before choosing from the menu!

Sound familiar? Don’t worry; these problems are common to all of us. So, while it is difficult to attain absolute perfection, there are things you can do to improve your chances:

  • Do your research before travelling. Find out what the weather is going to be like at certain times of the year in your preferred location, and make sure you read reviews online about airlines, hotels, food places, etc. The better informed you are, the more likely you are to enjoy each aspect of your getaway.

 

  • Choose a destination you will all enjoy. Assuming you aren’t travelling alone, consider the needs of those travelling with you. While you won’t please everybody all of the time, you can still make compromises so that everyone has a good time. 

 

  • Read my top airport tipsI know, I know…Nothing irks me like that random dude in the security line who thinks because he flies twice a month for business he can start bossing everyone around. Everyone’s an expert, right? But if you’re planning on boarding a plane this year, give these tips a read!

 

  • Stick to your price range. You aren’t going to have a good time if you suddenly run out of money and find yourself with nothing to do, so budget carefully before jetting off somewhere. I think it helps to set a “before-you-go budget” (for flights, lodging, etc.) and a “spending budget” (your allowance while you’re there). 

 

  • Think about your accommodation. Whether you choose a luxury hotel like the Renaissance Montreal Downtown Hotel or a youth hostel off the beaten track like Hostal El Momento in Granada, make this a priority. It has to be within your budget, appropriate to your needs, and within reach of the sights you want to see while you’re away. Double-check that you’re booked in before arrival as well, just in case of a mix-up!

 

  • Don’t try and do everything while you’re away. With so many things to see and do, you will burn yourself out if you try and tick off everything on your itinerary. So, plan for downtime, only visit the places you are desperate to see and leave the remainder for your next holiday. 

 

  • Forget perfection. The higher your expectation, the more disappointment you will feel if something goes wrong. If you can go with the flow and enjoy the time you have, no matter the mishaps, the more enjoyable your holiday will be. I promise!

What do you think? Have I missed anything? Have you achieved the perfect vacation? TELL US YOUR SECRETS! 

P.S. A mini vacay to Delray Beach! 

30 Days of Ballet Training

I don’t know if this will be interesting to anyone but, for the sake of accountability, I’m gonna blog about my current fitness challenge! You might know from this post and this one, that a) I love creating my own fitness challenges and b) I love pretending I’m a ballerina.

I love creating my own fitness challenges because I’m a self-proclaimed decisionphobe. Now what does that have to do with working out? Well, I LOVE exercising. The brain break it gives me during and those sweet, sweet endorphins after. But without a clear plan in place…I’ll often just skip exercising entirely. Making the decision about what to do and when to do it leaves me at an impasse. Because I know this about myself, I plan ahead and make all the decisions in one big batch!

I love pretending I’m a ballerina because ballet is something I’ve done since I was itty-bitty. In my experience, finding delight as an adult is often as easy as reflecting on what brought you joy as a child and doing THAT.

So with all that out of the way, let’s chat about my 30 days of ballet training!

The challenge is made up of 5 types of work-outs:

STRETCH – That’s an obvious one. Stretching.
STRENGTH – Less ballet inspired, more building strength in key areas NEEDED for ballet.
TRAIN – Ballet-inspired workout to train a specific body part or aspect of ballet.
CARDIO – Center work without breaks to get the heart-rate up.
BARRE – Also an obvious one. Barre work.

Here’s what the work-outs look like over the 30 days:

Week One

1 – STRETCH: Flexibility
2 – STRENGTH: Legs and Abs
3 – STRETCH & STRENGTH: Back
4 – STRENGTH: Back
5 – STRETCH: Total Body
6 – STRENGTH: Knees
7 – BARRE: Classical Ballet

Week Two

8 – TRAIN: Posture
9 – BARRE: Fitness (in athletic shoes)
10 – TRAIN: Extension
11 – CARDIO: Stamina Work
12 – STRENGTH: Arms
13 – STRETCH: Adagio Inspired
14 – BARRE: Floor

Week Three

15 – STRENGTH: Legs and Bum
16 – TRAIN: Arches
17 – BARRE: Classical and Fitness Combo
18 – TRAIN: Splits
19 – STRENGTH: Arms and Core
20 – TRAIN: Core
21 – BARRE: Fitness (in athletic shoes)

Week Four

22 – STRETCH: Yoga Inspired
23 – STRENGTH: Legs and Abs
24 – TRAIN: Neck and Arms
25 – STRETCH: Active Stretching
26 – TRAIN: Arms
27 – TRAIN: Abs
28 – STRETCH: Active Stretching

Bonus Days

29 – STRENGTH: Back
30 – CARDIO: Classical Center

I’m currently on Day 13 (and yes, my arms are sore from yesterday!) and am loving the training schedule so far. I’m already feeling stronger and more flexible. Shall I report back after Day 30?

If you’re interested in taking on a similar training schedule, I put together this 10-Day Ballet Challenge (using free online work-outs). Let me know if you try it out!

And if you suffer from decision fatigue, I can not recommend making your own fitness challenge enough. It works for all types of exercise and fitness levels! Need help getting started? Shoot me an email! I would LOVE to help you put one together. 🙂

What’s your favorite way to exercise? Have you ever tried a fitness challenge (either one that was already made or something you put together yourself)?