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mid-week round-up

As I mentioned in my post yesterday, we ended up spending last week at home instead of in Louisiana. Boo! However, I did manage to get in some solid beach-time, do a little retail therapy, and devour the book Big Little Lies. (Have you watched the HBO adaptation yet? So good!!!) I’ve also been a busy little craftin’ bee! I made a few wreaths for a friend’s upcoming wedding, along with some Easter decor for the apartment. So I guess our cancelled trip wasn’t a total wash! What have y’all been up to? I hope you have a wonderful Wednesday, and here are some links for you to enjoy today (or bookmark for later)…

Equal pay is widely understood to be a feminist issue. So why isn’t the Fight for $15?

Related: The 78 Cents Project is a pro-bono resume consultancy
aimed at eradicating the gender wage gap.

The Pope Francis Laundry for homeless opens at the Vatican.

Stories from the almshouse records — women’s lives in in 1790’s NYC.

Stickers for every season. #obsessed

The place of food security in the battle over healthcare.

Budget freezer meals for the slow-cooker and oven!

Solid April line-up from Book of the Month.

Face massages are like pilates for your cheeks. (I’ve gotta start doing this! I feel like I carry a lot of tension in my face. Is that a thing?)

Related: How to make a baking soda face mask.

17 Spring looks with 12 clothing items you probably already have in your closet.

9 podcast episodes worth discussing.

Related: 8 podcasts to check out on your next road trip.

Curfews, sports, and understanding kids’ brain chemistry have all helped dramatically curb substance abuse in Iceland.

P.S. 2 Finding Delight posts you may have missed — 6 True-Crime Documentaries for Your Inner Detective and For the love of DOWNTON!

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Rules for Female Friendships

Roxane Gay, writer and feminist hero, shared this great list on Women’s News a few years ago. Have you read it? It outlines the rules for female friendships and offers a healthy dose of reality for those folks who believe, for whatever reason, that lady-friends need to be competitive and catty. These rules, especially, are such important reminders…


2.
A lot of ink is given over to mythologizing female friendships as curious, fragile relationships that are always intensely fraught. Stop reading writing that encourages this mythology.

5.
Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it’s probably going to be easier for you to be happy.
5A. If you’re having a rough go of it and a friend is having the best year ever and you need to think some dark thoughts about that, do it alone, with your therapist, or in your diary so that when you actually see your friend, you can avoid the myth discussed in Item 1.
5B. If you and your friend(s) are in the same field and you can collaborate or help each other, do this without shame. It’s not your fault your friends are awesome. Men invented nepotism and practically live by it. It’s okay for women to do it too.

12.
If a friend sends a crazy email needing reassurance about love, life, family, or work, respond accordingly and in a timely manner even if it is just to say, “GIRL, I hear you.” If a friend sends you like 30 crazy emails needing reassurance about the same damn shit, be patient because one day that’s going to be you tearing up Gmail with your drama.


Don’t you love that?  Rule 5B reminds me of Ann Friedman’s Shine Theory (“Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.“) With these rules and theory in mind —

What female friendship can you work on today? What powerful lady can you welcome to your circle? LET’S SHINE, Y’ALL! 

Check out these books by Roxane Gay: Bad Feminist, An Untamed State, and Difficult Women. Listen to Call Your Girlfriend – a podcast for long-distance besties – hosted by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow.

P.S. Other fabulous ladies I’ve blogged about — Naomi Shihab Nye and Corita Kent.

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Good morning my delightful friends! How are you today? We started watching Big Little Lies last night. What an all-star cast! The characters are super compelling but I’m not sure if I’m in love with the format just yet. I’m certainly hooked enough to keep watching though! Tomorrow we’re headed to the aquarium and I CAN’T WAIT! Hope you all have beautiful days, and here are a few things you may enjoy reading…

The politics of conspicuous displays of self-care.

50 things you need to eat in Miami before you die.

I NEED this In Omnia Paratus poster in my life!

The true story of the American work force as told by nine folks in the trenches.

How to become an adult. 
“Suddenly realize that you are now older than your parents when they got married, older than your parents when they had a kid, maybe older than your parents when they had you, even. Notice the ages come and go at which you had always told yourself you would have various little boxes checked, see them fading behind you like road signs, and feel a mix of disappointment and empowerment: “No, I am not the person I promised myself. Yes, I actually like this person better.”

French cartoonist Pénélope Bagieu has taken a unique opportunity to correct public misperceptions about the life of Mama Cass.

Related: Adding California Dreamin’: Cass Elliot Before The Mamas and The Papas by Pénélope Bagieu to my Amazon Wishlist.

Also Related: Five Great Graphic Novels!

To the women of America — A warning and a rallying cry from Poland.

Betsy DeVos and the history of homeschooling. 

Never been to Tokyo? Here’s a crib sheet of stuff that is useful for your first trip. #goals

The baby in the plastic bag. #longform

A call to travel abroad…in your own country.
“I was a foreign correspondent for many years, work that involves the shedding of assumptions and absorption in place. To see what’s over here, you have to let go of what’s over there. Scott County, for coastal metropolitan Americans, is a foreign land. In a fissured nation, there are fewer and fewer moments of genuine encounter between rival tribes, each confined in its ideological canyon. So what could bring the country together, usher Brooklyn closer to Scottsburg?”

Working while female. 

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Carol Rossetti’s Colorful Illustrations of Female Empowerment and Winter Wardrobe Pieces.

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Happy Wednesday, pals! What have you been up to? I didn’t end up taking the trip up to St. Pete (as I mentioned in last week’s round-up) due to a sick kitty. However, I tried to make the most of my weekend at home and yesterday we spent the late morning/afternoon at the beach. Oh, and Wink the cat is all better! He’s lucky he has such loving parents. ; ) Hope you have a great day and here are some entertaining links for you to peruse…

Do you think Kristen Wiig is accepting applications for best friend? Because I would submit one!

A yummy slow-cooker soup for an easy weeknight meal.

This candle would make your house smell like Summer in the dead of Winter.

Why you should do a lifestyle photo shoot in your house before you move out.

Chet’s been obsessed with Gordon Ramsay lately. Tempted to sign him up for this class!

Adding Someone Knows Something to my ever-growing list of podcasts I want to listen to.

Victoria Beckham writes a letter to her 18-year-old self.

Passions flare over memory of The Manhattan Project.

Border Angels is an amazing organization and supporting the thousands of refugees in Tijuana shelters is a worthy cause. Consider donating!

Stripped of their dignity.

Warning: Abortion’s deadly DIY past could soon become its future.

How much do we need Obamacare? Just take a sad tour of GoFundMe.

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you might enjoy — Please read Suspicion Nation. and The Power of Self-Care.

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Welcome to 2017, my friends! Gah! How futuristic does THAT sound? I hope you’re all doing well and settling into the new year with ease. Did you make any resolutions? Set any new intentions? I’d like to develop some new organizational systems (paperwork, computer files, my planner…all these Christmas decorations that need to come down eventually, lol) and decrease time spent in front of screens. I’m also kick-starting my year with daily yoga videos from Adriene. (LOVE her January challenges!) Now, if reading more random internet articles was a resolution of yours, I’ve got ya covered… But you can feel free to click through even if it wasn’t…

Adding Chris Bohjalian’s book The Sleepwalker to my 2017 reading list.

Glamour just published it’s first issue produced completely by women. It’s about time.

This stamp set from Concord & 9th makes the sweetest DIY cards for winter.

Sherman Alexie, Lindy West, and Ta-Nehisi Coates all quit Twitter this week.

Would you paint your walls blush?

There’s a massive restaurant industry bubble, and it’s about to burst.

Death on the hippie trail.

The introvert’s travel bucket list for 2017.

Yoga may not be scientifically valid, but it works for me.

Diaries shed new light on siege of Leningrad.

The little-known link between Princess Leia’s iconic hairstyle and the Mexican Revolution.

*shrugs* Shit happens.

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How’s everyone doing today? Honestly, I still feel like I’m in shock. My mixed bag of emotions includes sadness, disbelief, anger, and grief for what could have been.

But I also feel an overwhelming love for the people in this country, especially my friends and family who now face the very real possibility that hardship awaits. I believe we can all do good in spite of the roadblock we’ve found ourselves up against. I believe we can claim the power in our own lives to effect change and help others. This love and these beliefs are what I’m clinging to.

Today, I’m bummed…because I really, really, really wanted a woman in The White House. I’m mourning for our country and how it would have felt to have her, despite facing a loud-mouthed male opponent, come out on top. I was counting so much on the tears I would shed for her victory that I never considered the tears I would shed for us all if she lost.

Tomorrow, the fight continues.

Here are some links pertaining to last night’s results…

A transcript of Donald Trump’s victory speech.

The electorate has, in its plurality, decided to live in Trump’s world.

This is how much America hates women.

What will I tell my children? 

Feeling homeless in America.

How the future voted.

“To all the little girls…never doubt that you are valuable and powerful & deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world.”Hillary Clinton

And here are a dozen non-election links, if you’re in need of a diversion…

A trove of historical gold from the attics and shoeboxes of Virginia.

Prince Michael Jackson can’t sing or dance.

Stanford sexual assault case survivor speaks out.

Samantha Bee condemns Catholic hospitals.

Watched this documentary recently and would highly recommend.

A swoon-worthy light fixture, if you’re in the market.

Is Barbara Bush four feet tall? Siri thinks so.

Lindsay Lohan NEVER disappoints.

‘Afghan Girl’ is arrested in Pakistan.

Female medical detective is such a bad-ass job title tho.

How to deal with jet lag.

Such a sweet story.

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What are you up to today? I have some errands to run (including getting my hair cut which I’ve been putting off for ages) but I’m feeling a little mid-week lazy. Can’t I just drink coffee and read books every day??? I hope everyone had a fun Halloween however you chose to celebrate. I was pretty pleased with my last-minute farmer costume. (Overalls!) Enjoy the rest of your Wednesday, and here are a few links I’ve gathered for your reading pleasure…

The Dakota Access Pipeline protest is unprecedented and 150 years in the making.

How a poster in a bar restroom cleverly combats sexual assault.

“I dressed like Rachel Green for a week and here’s what happened.”

What was the Princess Diana Beanie Baby?

House Tour: An art-filled Nashville home.

How to host a dinner party in a small space.

Our financial errors vary by age.

Lady Gaga does carpool karaoke.

Why American and European cities are dramatically different.

Why is Election Day on Tuesday, November 8?

Humans of New York and the cavalier consumption of others.

The feminist power of female ghosts.

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Happy Wednesday! What are y’all up to? We ran a bunch of errands yesterday in preparation for Hurricane Matthew, and today I’m brainstorming ways to entertain myself in the event we lose power. (Reading by candlelight? Knitting by flashlight?) Hopefully it doesn’t come to that but always good to be prepared! If you’re in the projected path, I hope you’re staying safe. Now, here are some links I found interesting, in case you’re in the mood…

Shirley Jackson wrote 17 books while raising 4 children — and she couldn’t have had a successful career without them.

Just one more reason to drink lots of wine before Christmas.

Novelists weigh in on cultural appropriation.

Imagine if Donald Trump were a woman.

A traditional cake for new mothers.

A beginner’s guide to meditation.

Jailed when her boyfriend killed her son, she is free at last.

Can clothes really open up a whole new world?

Young rural women in India chase big-city dreams.

The real reason 5 decades of women’s progress has stalled.

A fun Friday night once meant going to the velodrome to watch cyclists collide.

Irish people watch the presidential debate.

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What are you up to this week, friends? My mom is flying down to visit us on Saturday, and I can’t wait to show her around. I hope she’s ready for lots of tropical plants and Cuban food! I just finished the book “Me Before You.” Have you read it? Chet’s mom mailed it to me the other day (Thanks!) and once I picked it up I couldn’t put it down. I’m looking forward to the movie! Hope you all have a wonderful day, and now check out these links…

A perfect cocktail for adult summer camp.

The female journalists on Hillary’s campaign trail.

How self-deprecation is taking over the internet.

For summertime travels.

Would you try The Pomodoro Technique?

How to make an origami corner heart bookmark.

If Hillary could go back in time to tell one person she’d been nominated for president…

An algorithm that unpacks the master rhymes in Hamilton.

Thoughts from a refugee camp.

Chicken, leek, and pea pasta bake.

How Hawaiian immersion schools saved the Hawaiian language.

9 contradictions to embrace for greater happiness.

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What are y’all up to this week? We scooped up our dear friends Carrie and Ganer from the airport yesterday evening and are so excited to have them staying with us for the rest of the week! I really hope the weather holds so we can show off the finer points of Miami (read: beach, pools, tropical gardens). Either way, I know anything we do will be ten times more fun with those two in tow! Hope you have a great week, and here are some links for your enjoyment…

How fun would it be to go on vacations in this tiny camper?

I’d love to take The Productivity Planner for a test drive.

Can you pass the Southern Slang Challenge?

Jamie Oliver’s 10 Food Revolution recipes.

A fine-dining empire in the wild, wild west.

Bourbon has feminine roots but is still considered a man’s industry.

How Blac Chyna beat the Kardashians at their own game.

A false bottom in a mug held a Holocaust victim’s treasure for more than 70 years.

Men are sabotaging  online reviews of TV shows aimed at women.

The secret poems found on Boston’s streets.

A female chief breaks up 850 child marriages in Malawi.

Compete. Empower.

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