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About Beth Berger

Hi there! Finding Delight is a lifestyle and lifelong learning blog written and curated by me in Alabama. Along the way, I attempt to tackle the rough real world with books, budget-livin', brainpower and all the beautiful stuff you can find when you really look. Won't you join me? The true delight is in the finding out.

It’s my birthday!!! (+ 50 facts about ME.)

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Goodbye 20’s…HELLO 30’s!!! That’s right ladies and gentlemen, TODAY IS MY 30th BIRTHDAY! I’ll fill you in on the celebrations in a later post. Just know, I am very spoiled and lucky and each year, amazingly, keeps getting better than the last. I’ve had quite an exceptional 29th year…I learned a ton on the marketing team at Good Foods Co-op, celebrated a fantastic holiday season with my family and my love, made lasting memories with friends, saw my brother get hitched, watched my sister’s artistic creation come to life, spent lots of quality time with the Mama (usually over some delicious dish that she dreamed up and expertly prepared), checked things off my Lexington Bucket List, GOT ENGAGED(!!!), and moved to Miami with my lovely fiancee. I can’t wait to see what this next year holds. Life is good, y’all. xoxo

In honor of my birthday, I thought I’d just go balls to the wall and really make this post ALL about me. Haha! So, in case you were curious, here are…

50 Facts about ME!
  1. My favorite store is probably Target. Chet and I typically go there every Sunday and even though I don’t buy something every single time we go it’s a nice tradition and a fun place to wander through on boring afternoons.
  2. My first pet was a guinea pig named Annie that my family got after my brother and I had the chicken pox. She loved to eat carrot sticks and would squeak whenever she heard the fridge door open. She lived a very long life in her cage which sat on top of a hutch in our dining room.
  3. I don’t have cable. Netflix, Amazon, Hulu Plus, and YouTube are enough to keep me well stocked with plenty to watch. I had none of the above OR cable my last two years residing in Bowling Green. Instead, I checked out a stack of DVDs from the Warren County Public Library each week, a ritual I now miss.
  4. My mom is a vegan and an amazing cook/baker. I love her pizzas and cupcakes but she can “veganize” just about anything, including a McDonald’s Big Mac, which I also adore.
  5. I danced classical ballet until my sophomore year of college and loved going en pointe. I still walk quite turned out due to the ingrained muscle memory and years of training.
  6. My dreams are never very fantastical and typically feature real people doing normal things. I used to dream about the holocaust a lot (I read WAY too many concentration camp/WWII books as a child) but now most of my nightmares involve a lack of preparedness (ie. I’m entered in this speech tournament?! Uh oh!)
  7. My brother, sister, mom and I have a group text called Bergers Being Bergers. The messages within consist primarily of emojis.
  8. My (condensed) birth story: I was delivered by a nurse because the doctor didn’t get there in time.
  9. I’m the middle child which I thought was a disastrous fate as a kid but now I think it’s probably the best place to be in the birth order. My brother is 2 years older than me. My sister is 5 years younger.
  10. I’ve lived in Lexington, KY; Vienna, Austria; Dublin, Ireland; Bowling Green, KY; and now Miami, FL.
  11. I prefer to read books with a female narrator and/or main character. Similarly, when someone suggests a certain movie to watch I may ask, “But are there any girls in it?” I think this comes across as childish but I don’t really care. I need lady representation if I’m gonna invest my time.
  12. I consider myself a lifelong learner and have always enjoyed more self-directed studies. My interests are vast and ever-changing!
  13. I never get bored of oatmeal and consider it a comfort food.
  14. When I worked at Western Kentucky University my office only had walls ¾ of the way to the ceiling (ie. a cubicle situation) and I could throw things over the top of the wall to my co-workers. In retrospect, it was a pretty plush work space, even more so because I shared it with some of my best friends.
  15. This time last year I was in Louisiana eating beignets and listening to Cajun music.
  16. I prefer quilts over comforters.
  17. I went to Catholic Heart Work Camp for 2 summers in high school. While there, we renovated houses for underprivileged families. We used power tools with little to no training and sweated our butts off but it was a really heartwarming experience. I would highly recommend a similar experience for all whiny, bratty teens.
  18. I like to carry a small backpack instead of a purse because having my shoulders off-kilter for an extended period of time makes me grumpy.
  19. I love hanging out with one other person or a small group much more than a large group. Whenever I’m at a restaurant with a large group of people choosing where to sit at the table gives me a lot of anxiety and I always feel like I’ve chosen wrong.
  20. The plot line of Downton Abbey bears a striking resemblance to what went down in my Playmobil dollhouse. Although, a giant rodent never appears in the show and I was always letting my pet mouse loose to roam the dollhouse halls.
  21. I try not to leave the house without water and a snack.
  22. I’ve worn glasses since elementary school and my first pair were a super round, quintessential 90’s, wire-rimmed set that were oh so sexy.
  23. The advent of 3-way calling definitely ruined a few of my middle school friendships.
  24. The in-flight movie on my first international flight was Mr. Holland’s Opus. Other memorable airplane viewing: a bio-pic about Jackie Joyner Kersee that finished before we’d even taken off (delayed on the runway) on a trip home from Germany with my dad (2 thumbs up!) and enduring the same movie to AND from Buenos Aires, Argentina (I don’t remember what the movie was but 2 thumbs down for the situation!).
  25. I’m incredibly indecisive. Sometimes paralyzingly so. Yet, in a crisis I can make split second decisions and stick to them.
  26. When I was really little I fell down my Grandparents’ basement steps and got 2 black eyes. I’ve also broken my collarbone falling out of bed, broken my wrist when I slipped wearing ballet tights on a slick kitchen floor, sprained my ankle going up steps backstage at a dance recital, and tore my MCL when I fell on a patch of ice. The summer before my junior year of high school my platelet count dropped so low (due to ITP) that I was covered in petechiae and bruises for weeks.
  27. I was an early adopter of smart phones (my first was a Blackjack) but I listened to a disc man far longer than would have been considered socially acceptable and still use the radio as my primary means of music consumption.
  28. I don’t like mushrooms or olives because their texture bums me out.
  29. Some of my favorite plays I’ve performed in include; Peter Pan, Oklahoma, The Crucible, and Night of the Pterodactyls.
  30. My favorite events to do in college forensics were Informative Speaking and Prose Interpretation. Essentially, I love telling a story.
  31. I’ve taken full and immediate advantage of the fact that our condo complex has a pool! HelloOoOoO South Florida!
  32. I love the feeling of cracking my hips and cleaning out my ears.
  33. Aside from a few streaks of color (Read: orange) at 16, I’ve never chemically altered my hair. As a result, it’s super healthy and one of my favorite features. However, due to a general lack of hair knowledge and laziness, I typically don’t do anything with it.
  34. My dad once had a meeting about hemp with Woody Harrelson.
  35. My favorite nail polish color is navy blue.
  36. Growing up, my family went North for vacations instead of South. We spent our summers on Lake Michigan.
  37. I blush really easily. Many times a flush will come over me due to second hand embarrassment. So, if you see me pink-cheeked, it could in fact BE YOU! 😉
  38. I drink 2 cups of coffee every morning.
  39. I’ve never had to spend the night in a hospital.
  40. I’m thankful to have grown up in a generation where it was ok to set off on your bike for an adventure in your neighborhood as long as you were home by nightfall.
  41. I love the smell of lavender and rosemary.
  42. The last time I was sick I had either food poisoning or a 24 hour virus and my recovery involved watching every single episode of Catfish and eating saltines.
  43. I hate going to the dentist.
  44. I prefer volumes to be set to an even number.
  45. My favorite fast food meal is the #5 from Jimmy John’s. My favorite food to MAKE fast involves throwing whatever I have on hand on top of toast.
  46. Coaching speech made me a better listener, researcher, and writer.
  47. I really want to go to Mexico City next year. I really want to go to Iceland in the next 5.
  48. I love, love, love to laugh and love to surround myself with funny people. I’m so lucky that Chet is literally the funniest person I know.
  49. I have no shame when it comes to tracking down a piece of knowledge. Read: Gossip. I just like to know things!!!
  50. I’m obsessed with my cat, Wink, and think ragdolls are the best feline breed to ever exist.

 

 

Recipe: The perfect appetizer for Autumn.

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I’m not someone who is easily seduced by the “Appetizers” section on menus. Unless you’re gonna bring me a free basket of tortilla chips with salsa, I’d rather save my dough (and my appetite) for the main event. However! Every girl has exceptions…and this girl’s is fried pickles. Oh my word, if I see those glorious two words on a menu, I just can’t resist placing an order. Served hot, with all that briny flavor packed into a crisp coating, I feel like they’re the perfect treat around this time of year. Football season, Fall festivals, cozy nights in with friends; all cultivate memories of super flavorful, bite sized noms. In an effort to achieve this nostalgic Fall-time taste AND make my favorite appetizer indulgence a little bit less guilt-ridden, I went to work on a batch of “fried” pickles. Now, full disclosure, these are a tad time intensive to make (you have to coat each. tiny. pickle.) but I promise the result is well worth it…especially if you’ve got any pickle fans in your household! Order up!

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What you’ll need…

– 1 jar of pickles

– 2 eggs

– 1/3 cup of flour

– 1 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce

– 1 tsp hot sauce (I used Tabasco)

– 1 tsp garlic powder

– 1 tsp Cajun seasoning

– 1 tsp black pepper

– 1 cup of bread crumbs

– cooking spray

and how it all comes together…

– Turn on oven broiler and set it to high.

– In a medium bowl, mix together flour and eggs. Next, add in Worcestershire sauce, hot sauce, garlic powder, Cajun seasoning, and pepper. Combine well.

– Pour your bread crumbs out on a plate.

– Set a rack on a baking sheet and spray it down with non-stick cooking spray. You should now have a little assembly line in front of you on your counter consisting of bowl with egg mixture, plate with bread crumbs, and rack on baking sheet.

– Dip each pickle into the egg mixture and then coat it with bread crumbs. Aim for full coverage!

– Place the coated pickles on to the rack as you go. Neat little rows will be nice here in a moment.

– Put the whole kit and caboodle in your oven on the middle rack.

– Broil for 3 minutes. Then, take them out and use tongs to flip each pickle over (this is where those neat rows come in handy). Pop ’em back in the oven and broil for another 3 minutes.

– Take the pickles back out and arrange on a plate. Serve them up hot with a side of ranch for dipping! Enjoy! 

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What’s your favorite snack to munch on during football games and autumn events? Do you have a go-to tailgating recipe? Leave it below! Hope you have an amazing FALL WEEKEND! 

The prettiest iPhone cases.

My trusty, goes-everywhere-with-me iPhone is in need of a new outfit! She’s currently cloaked in a plastic white case adorned with a mandala-inspired elephant. But! I’ve been on the hunt for an updated look and have now found so many lovely designs that I can’t seem to choose! Which is YOUR favorite???

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Marble. // French Bulldog. // Hedgehog. // The ocean, the sea, the wave. // Florabunda. //    I am very busy. // Scalloped Seas. // Self-Styled. // Vanity Fair.

mid-week round-up

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What are you up to this week? Fall is here!!! Even in South Florida the weather has cooled a bit, the sunshine has that golden glow, and there’s a frequent lovely breeze blowing. This is my last week being in my twenties so I intend to eat autumnal desserts, plan a well-deserved beach trip, and make toasts over Gin & Ginger Ales that end in “R.I.P. 20’s!” Thanks to everyone who made this past year so wonderful. Now, bring on the big 3-0! Happy Wednesday to all of you lovely readers; please enjoy these links…

Lauren! Tom Hanks found your student ID in the park. #casual

Found: the perfect autumn breakfast.

4 happy rituals. 

Have you ever ghosted?

A UCLA student takes her graduation photos in the strawberry field her parents have picked strawberries in for 22 years.

I’ve had Lianne La Havas on repeat this week.

An interactive guide to self care. 

When it comes to technology and love…the teens get it.

Some seasonal iPhone wallpapers.

Will you stay or will you go? 

Quite auspicious! Buddhism’s 8 symbols.

A campfire candle.

 

I stopped paying women compliments on their appearance and here’s what happened.

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A few years ago, much like the rest of everyone ever on the Internet, I fell in love with this Huffington Post piece by Lisa Bloom, “How to Talk to Little Girls”. In it, Bloom recounts a recent interaction she had with a little girl named Maya in which she engaged the five-year-old about books instead of outfits. Arguing for readers to ask girls about their minds rather than comment on their appearance, she made a compelling case. Here’s an excerpt…

“Teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice tells them that looks are more important than anything. It sets them up for dieting at age 5 and foundation at age 11 and boob jobs at 17 and Botox at 23. As our cultural imperative for girls to be hot 24/7 has become the new normal, American women have become increasingly unhappy. What’s missing? A life of meaning, a life of ideas and reading books and being valued for our thoughts and accomplishments.”

Hollering, “PREACH Lisa, preach!!!” the whole way, I ran to my nearest public library and plowed through Bloom’s book Think: Straight Talk for Women to Stay Smart in a Dumbed-Down World. I was armed with all sorts of advice about using my mind for the betterment of the future. I devoured Bloom’s analysis and added all her favorite books to my reading list. But it was her initial advice about talking to girls that really impacted me. At this point in my life, I had recently made the career switch from a job that required constant brain-power and creativity and problem solving to one in retail, which…well, didn’t. However, I WAS constantly interacting with customers, meeting new people, and engaging with employees. I thought, what a perfect opportunity to challenge myself based on Bloom’s advice! But limiting her “conversation how-to” JUST to little girls didn’t seem like enough of a challenge. So I decided to go ALL in. I vowed that for the foreseeable future all small-talk with females, ANY females, would center around subjects OTHER than appearance; meaning no compliments or comments on their clothes, hair, face, body, shoes, makeup or anything I deemed appearance-oriented.

Here’s what happened…

Introverts beware! The biggest initial hurdle, you may have guessed by now, was finding things to talk about. I’m not the most outgoing person in the world, especially with strangers, so cutting out an easy conversation starter forced me to be a bit braver than normal and get creative. With little ones it was easy to ask things like, “Did you do anything fun in school today?” or “What’s that book about?” Real adult LADIES were another story. More often than not, if I was meeting them for the first time, I would panic and end up saying nothing at all. With acquaintances and friends I tried to lead by example. I would talk about books I was reading or local events I wanted to check out in the hopes they’d follow suit. Sometimes this tactic worked and sometimes it didn’t. When it didn’t, I ended up talking about myself a bit more than I was comfortable with. One sided convos about ME weren’t helping ANYONE…so I had to go back to the drawing board again and again to figure out new ways of talking to other women-folk.

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Little girls LOVE a conversation outlet. So, it wasn’t just MY end of the conversation that proved especially easy with the young’uns…they were super about their side of things too! I quickly remembered how awesome I felt as a little kid when older people would REALLY talk to me. Giving others that feeling and opportunity was such an easy way to brighten even my most shitty days. Little girls will happily tell you about who they sat with at lunch, their favorite field trip, a ballet recital, the name of the horse they rode last week, a multitude of reasons why they hate broccoli, classroom pets like hamsters and snakes, why their baby brother is shy, what their imaginary friend is up to at this VERY moment, that they’ve already read THIS BOOK five times but they just love it so much they’re reading it again…and on and on and on. Parents were usually happy for the break or happy to join in. Little girls are awesome and they have a LOT to say. Even those little loves who were too shy to jump into conversation with me were easy to compliment on things other than appearance. Not ONCE did a parent have to chime in and thank me for a compliment that their kid had ignored. I find they often do when you tell a little girl something like, “Nice hair bow!”

Are compliments currency? Never have I found receiving a compliment so daunting as I did when I wasn’t paying them. Notice this turn of phrase. We call it “paying” someone a compliment. As I mentioned before, around the time I decided to go on a compliment fast, I was in a new job. New co-workers would serve up a “I love your shoes!” or “Your hair is so nice!” or “Those glasses are awesome!” and I would fill up with dread. How do I RECEIVE a compliment on my appearance if I can’t PAY one in return? Never too great at taking compliments in stride in the first place, I became even worse. I got caught up in the reciprocation aspect, or lack there of. Which is why I move that we give compliments instead of pay them! No matter what kind of compliment they are. Hand them out and expect nothing in return. And don’t worry about paying anyone back when you’re given one either! This was a hard lesson to learn but one I’m grateful for–ain’t nobody got time for calculating compliment exchange rates.

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Female acquaintances vs. Female friends Because I was actively avoiding superficial conversations it was easy to steer clear of superficial friendships. I quickly developed camaraderie’s with ladies who shared similar interests to me…even if that was just talking shit about annoying co-workers or Netflix binges. If the conversation flowed easily without talk of appearance, she would move from acquaintance to friend. If it didn’t, I would still enjoy some small talk here and there but that was enough. I didn’t try and push anything. It became much easier than ever before to tell the difference. Initially, I felt terrible for making this distinction with one particular female acquaintance. She constantly complimented me, we had similar backgrounds and current positions, and everyone around me just LOVED HER. But something  didn’t click when we talked to each other. I think if I had tried each day to offer her mindless compliments, I wouldn’t have been able to admit that it was better for us to remain acquaintances than forced friends.

In which I give myself a caveat. Pretty early on in the challenge I decided to give ladies of a certain age (Think: Grandmas) a pass and lift my compliment fast for a few moments just for them. This gave me the opportunity to offer really genuine, thought-out praise. I think because the compliments felt so real to me, they felt that real to those I was complimenting too. I can only describe their responses as delighted. Reserving these little moments of appreciation for a beautifully tailored suit or a colorful brooch or a gorgeous pair of soft leather gloves was definitely worth their surprised and humbled replies. Usually their thanks was coupled with a beautiful (and sometimes beautifully sad) story, circling back to the type of conversation I was after in the first place.

So, you may be wondering, where do I stand on all of this now? In the end, I lifted my ban on complimenting women’s appearance. As long as they’re adults I figure it’s fair game, and even then I sometimes slip and tell a kid I like her shoes. Mostly the challenge taught me to be mindful with my compliments and not to toss them around as a conversation crutch. Girls don’t need to evaluate their self-worth based on looks just because I can’t think of anything clever to say. I also learned that for some of my sisters out there compliments are an important part of female communication. Choosing not to engage with them on that level can be damaging. The last thing I want is to shut out a fellow lady-friend! I realize now that some of the compliments I give (and some that I receive, too) are rocking this as their subtext…

Subtext: I know there’s more to what makes you awesome than your ability to select and wear that t-shirt but I haven’t quite put my finger on what it is so for now I’m gonna tell you “your shirt is soooo cute!” and maybe, through that banal quip, the lines of communication between us will open just a wee bit more and I’ll get to the bottom of why you’re so darn cool and I can compliment your mind and your heart and your soul without feeling shy and embarrassed and weird.” 

…and that’s ok. Sometimes, you just REALLY like the shirt. And that’s ok, too. But it doesn’t have to be ALL you talk about.

As for little girls, I’d still rather find out what they’re reading.

Full. The Musical

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Last week I had the pleasure of traveling to Tampa to see my sister star in, Full, an amazing musical which she also wrote and produced! Katie played a high-school girl grappling with recent tragedy, young love, and her own demon’s brought to life right in front of the audience’s eyes. After several readings created a lot of buzz, Jobsite Theater presented the WORLD PREMIERE of the show at the Straz Center of Performing Arts in downtown Tampa. The result? A beautifully acted and expertly staged presentation of an honest, well-written script.

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As any proud sister would, I’ve enjoyed reading other people’s thoughts on the show and it’s impact. Here are three lovely quotes:

Michael Canon Henry (writer): “Ms. Berger has an open, expressive face that makes her wonderful for all sorts of roles (in my book, at least; I’m not a theater critic). Of course, she’s good mostly because she works at it.”

Molly Miller (mother): “I saw Full. the musical. last night. What an amazing show! from the opening line to the very end it caught me, and held me. As the mother of a teen age daughter I was especially delighted with the authenticity of the dialogue. A beautiful and heartbreaking story. I can count on one hand the number of times I have cried in a theater, and 2 of them were last night. The song lyrics were spot on with the production, and the actors had amazing voices. Each and every character was cast perfectly, so meshed into their roles that I actually felt more like a voyeur than an audience for a lot of the show.”

Broadway World: “I recommend Berger keep writing and exploring the musical genre because she’s a strong, intriguing songwriter with an interesting, twisted world view. And she has a keen ear for snappy dialogue. She may be known for being a local performer, but now she’s become something else: a real writer.”

Thank you for sharing your gifts and talents with the world, Katie! Your story is so important and you bring delight to us all! I was lucky to see this first staging but I can’t wait to see where else this show will take you.

P.S. I love this shot of my mom and I with Katie after her show…

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P.P.S. Check out the official website for Full the Musical HERE and enter your email for a FREE download of one of the tracks from the show!

Thoughts on public transportation.

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My recent train trek to Tampa, coupled with the absolutely shitty nature of driving ANYWHERE in Miami, has gotten me thinking about transportation. We live in an overwhelming car culture in America. And to be honest, it kinda bums me out. Why are we still waiting patiently for alternate transportation to “catch on” as the rest of the world’s developed nations are whisked away on high-speed rail? Why is the train station in Miami, a pretty major city in the ol’ U.S., a relic of the 1970’s? Why do so many Americans willingly sit in the drivers seat for hours long commutes every day? Why, when planning a trip out of state, do I have to consider plunking down a credit card charge equal to my month’s rent to get a coveted spot sitting on a flying metal tube? Now, it’s no secret to those close to me that I despise driving. I’ll gladly hand off my car keys to anyone willing to chauffeur me for the day. I would much rather amble down the highway in a bus with a stranger falling asleep on my shoulder than have to endure a long road trip as sole captain and passenger of my hatchback. I also have a pretty long-standing love of trains, streetcars, and other “we’re all in this together even if this means a B.O.-smelling journey”-transportation.

Story 1 

When I was 10, my family lived in a cozy apartment on Lazarettgasse in Vienna, Austria. Nestled next door was Zur Goldenen Kugel, a dimly lit restaurant with a mascot dachshund who would visit diners at their table. My bedroom window boasted a lovely view of Allgemeines Krankenhaus, which literally translates to “General Sick-House.” At night I would watch the lights flicker on and off in the various hospital rooms. Right up the road was a streetcar stop. Here’s where I would board  the #5 streetcar, ride 3 stops, switch to the #13 bus and journey to Mariahilfer Strasse for dance class. I would make this journey by myself. I feel like this would blow a few helicopter parents’ minds in this day an age. But at 10, I felt perfectly fine tackling this trek twice a week. Sometimes I was accompanied by my flamboyant, Castillian Spanish-language tutor but the majority of the time this was a solo adventure. These rides opened my eyes to the city and it’s people and were a great way to catch a few moments alone when my days were otherwise spent cooped up and home schooled in a tiny apartment.

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Story 2

Just days after George W. Bush declared war on Iraq, I was riding a train with 3 of my very best friends on a day trip to an Irish seaside town. Completely clueless and naive to the rest of the world’s current perceptions of our home country, we didn’t know our accents could cause offense. Which is why we were totally blind-sided when a belligerent, red-faced local angrily approached us, cursing our presence and our president. I wouldn’t say we had been behaving poorly or talking out of turn on that particular train ride. But we WERE teenagers and there WERE four of us. I’m sure we were being as loud as one might expect four teenagers to be when they’ve been handed a little freedom for the day. He spat out his belief that we should have the sense to be silent when everyone on the train hated us so much for where we came from. He questioned our choice of clothing as misguided patriotism. (Puzzlingly, we were all wearing hoodies but only one of them was red so to this day I wonder about this part of his tirade.) We would get on more trains and buses in the days that followed but perhaps a bit more cautiously than our previous teenage fearlessness had dictated.

Story 3 

Riding the subway in New York City with my mom and sister, another family consisting of mother and two children, rushed into our car and sat down across from us. The little girl sat in a stroller, her brother perched next to her on the bench reading chapter books emblazoned with public library bar codes. She started to get fussy and squirmy and as her mom lovingly tried to distract her I realized the little girl lacked mobility in her appendages. She whined and pleaded to be let out of her stroller. Her mom, with exhaustion in her voice, said, “Not here, mija. You’ll fall.” In a last ditch effort the mom held out her cell phone in front of the girl and I watched in awe as the girl played one of those games like Candy Crush, maneuvering around the screen with her chin and lips. The game would *ding* indicating success and the little girl and her mom would dissolve into peals of laughter. Meanwhile, I was overcome with how lovely this mother was. I wanted to grab her hand and tell her “You’re doing a good job!” I wanted to tell ALL mothers the same. Riding in a cramped, rush-hour subway car on the way to get a slice at Russel Simmons’ favorite pizza joint, I was reminded of how many good people there are in this world. How many heroes go unsung.

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Public transportation and train travel could be a crucial part of the solution to our nation’s economic, energy, and environmental problems. Every segment of American society – individuals, families, communities, and businesses – stands to benefit from it. Yet there are so many political and infrastructural barriers standing in the way. And even if those hurdles are crossed, erasing the car culture deeply ingrained in the American psyche could prove difficult. A culture obsessed with everyone in their own little box, driving down a highway cramped with exhaust breathing 18-wheelers and government money. Perhaps alternative transportation will never be plausible in America because of our refusal to sit next to or around people that don’t look like us.

And isn’t that sad? Because by sitting with people who didn’t look like me, I learned responsibility and an independent spirit would be integral qualities in helping me achieve my goals. Sometimes the journey is sweeter solo. Keep going. I learned actions have consequences and that too often we must spend time answering for actions we didn’t even insight. Don’t take it personally. Keep going. I learned you can see goodness and beauty in an otherwise ugly world you just have to open your eyes and look. The view isn’t always out your window and the journey is sometimes the best part of the trip. Keep going.

September favorites.

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With the turning of the calendar page from September to October, it’s time to bundle together the best products, places, media and everything in between from the last month. Here are 9 things I found myself loving in September…

1. Dr. Sponge

A new addition to my skincare routine, this natural sponge contains pearl powder and is the perfect gentle exfoliator if you have sensitive skin. The sponge itself is naturally rich in vitamins and protein and the pearl powder contains amino acids which help even out and brighten skin tone. I’m obsessed with how soft my skin feels after using it! I originally received this as a gift but I will definitely repurchase. The brand carries a variety of sponges with different additions — lycopene, aloe vera, charcoal, etc — but the pearl powder is recommended for sensitive skin so that’s probably the one I would stick with.

2. The Patricia & Phillip Frost Art Museum

I discussed our visit to check out the exhibits at The Frost Museum in a recent blog post. The museum is located on the campus of Florida International University and entrance is free. Exhibits change fairly frequently and the galleries are beautifully maintained and curated. If you’re in the area, I definitely recommend popping in for a few hours to have a look around! I can’t wait to go back as new art is installed!

3. Marble candles at Target

If there’s two home decor trends I’m loving right now it’s cozy-scented candles and MARBLE EVERYTHING. Luckily, Target has a new line of candles which incorporates both! The one we purchased at the beginning of the month is about burned to the bottom. Now to figure out how to re-purpose the marble part… Any ideas???

4. Casey Neistat’s YouTube Channel

The list of channels found in my YouTube subscriptions had gone pretty much unchanged for about a year before getting hooked on Casey Neistat this month. He’s a film-maker and entrepreneur who uploads a new vlog every single day.  The content of his videos is always interesting and the cinematography/editing is super on point. Usually my YouTube tastes are a bit more girl-ish (read: beauty and style vloggers) or international (read: expat vloggers) but Casey’s channel has been wonderfully binge-worthy the past few weeks.

5. Rosemary’s Baby

This movie topped the list for Netflix Nights in September. If you haven’t seen it yet, don’t miss out another month! Fall is a great time for watching weird and creepy thrillers like this one! Directed by Roman Polanski, this psychological horror film came out in 1968. I thought the home decor, costumes, and New York street scenes were just as intriguing as the plot. I found myself wanting to own every outfit donned by Mia Farrow (even her extravagant sleepwear and robes!) but I don’t think I could pull off her Vidal Sassoon pixie cut.

6. The Bookstore in the Grove 

On a recent trek to Coconut Grove, Chet and I stumbled upon the RADDEST bookstore. Their selection of books was masterfully curated and displayed, plus they had a wonderful selection of notebooks, pens, and other awesome stationery items. We treated ourselves to fresh lemonade and hot empanadas when we visited but they also offer a HUGE selection of coffees, smoothies, salads, wraps, and baked goods. It would be the perfect spot to head to on a Saturday morning to eat breakfast while reading a new bestseller or flipping through some magazines. I have a feeling this is going to be a very handy discovery come Christmas shopping time!

7. Wine Stopper

I love unique kitchen embellishments so when I spotted this Ladies Who Lunch Wine Stopper on Amazon I just had to have her. She’s so proper and charming sitting atop my bottles of wine! Wouldn’t she be the perfect addition to a Downton Abbey binge (drinking) night? Makes me think of this video! Fetch me my wine glass!!!

8. Pinecrest Gardens

Adventures in the great outdoors have long been a favorite weekend activity of mine. So it’s been really awesome to explore the landscape, plants, animals, etc. in a totally new-to-me area of the world. Pinecrest Gardens is a park which, for just $5, allows me to do just that. It’s kind of like stepping inside your very own rain-forest. There are trails that take you through all sorts of native plants, bridges crossing streams filled with huge koi fish, and no shortage of friendly turtles.

9. Happy Snacking

Grabbing a handful of cotton candy grapes, pumpkin spice almonds, or goldfish crackers for an afternoon snack is bound to put a smile on my face. They were totally my favorite things to munch, crunch, and nibble on this month.

mid-week round-up

arch door

Happy Wednesday! What have you been doing this week? I just got back last night from a whirl-wind trip to Tampa, by way of train, to see my sister’s musical. She not only rocked the stage as the leading lady but she also wrote the whole thing! I was so proud. And it was great to see her and my mom. We got to enjoy some lovely catch-up time over coffee and brunch. The journey was super fun, too. I find train travel so much more relaxing than airplanes. And way more leg room! Have you traveled by train recently? Hope you have a lovely week, and enjoy the following round-up of links…

The case for the 6-hour work day.

Why are students still required to buy Texas Instruments graphing calculators?

Auto-pilot cooking.

Sometimes we need poetry’s raw imagery to help us understand.

Women in Tech.

The “prettiest bride” in China.

Tons of material for a Miami book-club.

Swooning over the pages of this Bullet Journal.

Perfect white + gold desk accessory.

Which would you choose? (I like the pineapple and Kevin from Home Alone!)

How magical!

The truth about baby carrots.

Hand-lettered love.

*heart eye emoji* I just found the Etsy shop AllieRuth which specializes in hand-lettered and illustrated stationery, mugs and bags. I’m especially loving this shopping tote

fresh is best bag

elegantly simple Christmas cards

comfort & joy holiday card

and a rubber stamp with a very important message…

postman take care stamp

So stylish and graceful, don’t you think? I wish I could buy it all! Go check out the shop, if you feel so inclined. And follow Allie, the designer and owner, on Instagram.

P.S. I’m also swooning over the custom calligraphy and illustration stamps that can be used to make DIY wedding invites! Don’t worry, this engaged lady took note of that one!