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mid-week round-up

Hey peeps! How have you been? Last week I took an adventure into the Everglades (tell ya more about it later this week!) and managed to get a trillion bug bites. And the last couple days I’ve been in full blown allergy mode so I’m basically itchy and sneezy. Wonderful, eh? Hope y’all are faring better as we slide into Summer, and here are a few links…

A family’s slave:  “She lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was.”

We can end police violence in America. Join Campaign Zero.

The surprising pattern behind color names around the world.

I have this bra in beige but now I really want it in blush!

Related: In Search of the Comfiest Bra

Recently discovered Melissa Voigt and I’ve been binge reading her blog posts!

This 90-year-old lady seduced and killed Nazis as a teenager.

The cutest zebra mug.

In honor of Mother’s Day last weekend, 25 famous women on their mothers.

The people behind “The Handmaid’s Tale” know they’re giving you nightmares.

Design your own “thinking of you” greeting card.

This Appalachia Life opens up about his first Mother’s Day without his mom.

10 years on, Amy Winehouse’s best-known songs still hurt and heal in equal measure.

P.S. Here are a few links from me you may have missed — Irresistible Me Review and Books to read if you’re in search of a history lesson…

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mid-week round-up

How have you been, guys? We had a fantastic time in Savannah celebrating the wedding of our friends Katie & Marc! It was so much fun getting to spend time with them, along with other friends and my family, and experiencing a bit of such a great Southern city. (I’m thinking of writing a post about some of the restaurants we enjoyed while there, if y’all are interested!) They had a beautiful garden ceremony in historic downtown and the reception was at a restaurant overlooking the river. So, so magical! Now that we’re back to reality, I’m slowly but surely getting unpacked and slogging my way through a very full inbox. Beam me back to champagne toasts and Spanish moss, plz!

Links for you…

A horchata-inspired protein shake perfect for summertime breakfasts.

How water affects people attempting to cross the Mexico – U.S. border.
It’s expected that anyone crossing the border will lose access to clean water. Bonds compares the journey to the Hunger Games — and the audience is everyone who watches, especially during this administration, without doing a thing. “You’re hunted,” she says. “Maybe water falls from the sky if you’re lucky on that day. You’re going to die or almost die trying to get here.”

Related: Border Angels leaves dozens of gallon jugs of water in the desert along high-traffic migrant paths. DONATE HERE.

Hulu’s adaptation of Margaret Atwood’s novel lays bare the horrors of collusion with the patriarchy.

So many cute things in the new Cupcakes and Cashmere online store. (Especially these earrings, this candle, and this pillow.)

An open letter to the creators of S-Town.

Books Through Bars distributes free books and educational materials to prisoners. (I love that they have an Amazon Wishlist so it is super easy to donate!)

Related: I’m near the end of Season One of Prison Break and if those dudes don’t bust out soon I SWEAR TO GOD.

Gorgeous copper flatware would certainly elevate your next dinner party (or weeknight meal).

A day in the life of a food vendor.

What began as an attempt at a simpler life quickly became a lifestyle brand. #vanlife
Scroll through the images tagged #vanlife on Instagram and you’ll see plenty of photos that don’t have much to do with vehicles: starry skies, campfires, women in leggings doing yoga by the ocean. Like the best marketing terms, “vanlife” is both highly specific and expansive. It’s a one-word life-style signifier that has come to evoke a number of contemporary trends: a renewed interest in the American road trip, a culture of hippie-inflected outdoorsiness, and a life free from the tyranny of a nine-to-five office job.

Love the idea behind this craft project subscription box!

Buckets of opportunity in Rural America.

Crime, addiction, and religion meet at the greyhound race track.

P.S. Here are a couple Finding Delight posts you may enjoy — Meal Planning for Beginners in 7 Easy Steps and It’s All an Illusion.

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Good morning my delightful friends! How are you today? We started watching Big Little Lies last night. What an all-star cast! The characters are super compelling but I’m not sure if I’m in love with the format just yet. I’m certainly hooked enough to keep watching though! Tomorrow we’re headed to the aquarium and I CAN’T WAIT! Hope you all have beautiful days, and here are a few things you may enjoy reading…

The politics of conspicuous displays of self-care.

50 things you need to eat in Miami before you die.

I NEED this In Omnia Paratus poster in my life!

The true story of the American work force as told by nine folks in the trenches.

How to become an adult. 
“Suddenly realize that you are now older than your parents when they got married, older than your parents when they had a kid, maybe older than your parents when they had you, even. Notice the ages come and go at which you had always told yourself you would have various little boxes checked, see them fading behind you like road signs, and feel a mix of disappointment and empowerment: “No, I am not the person I promised myself. Yes, I actually like this person better.”

French cartoonist Pénélope Bagieu has taken a unique opportunity to correct public misperceptions about the life of Mama Cass.

Related: Adding California Dreamin’: Cass Elliot Before The Mamas and The Papas by Pénélope Bagieu to my Amazon Wishlist.

Also Related: Five Great Graphic Novels!

To the women of America — A warning and a rallying cry from Poland.

Betsy DeVos and the history of homeschooling. 

Never been to Tokyo? Here’s a crib sheet of stuff that is useful for your first trip. #goals

The baby in the plastic bag. #longform

A call to travel abroad…in your own country.
“I was a foreign correspondent for many years, work that involves the shedding of assumptions and absorption in place. To see what’s over here, you have to let go of what’s over there. Scott County, for coastal metropolitan Americans, is a foreign land. In a fissured nation, there are fewer and fewer moments of genuine encounter between rival tribes, each confined in its ideological canyon. So what could bring the country together, usher Brooklyn closer to Scottsburg?”

Working while female. 

P.S. A few Finding Delight posts you may have missed — Carol Rossetti’s Colorful Illustrations of Female Empowerment and Winter Wardrobe Pieces.

mid-week round-up

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Good day to you all! What are you up to this week? We’ve weirdly gotten really into getting DVD’s in the mail from Netflix. Throwback, right?? Since Chet’s in charge of queuing them, I look forward to seeing what arrives each week. Maybe we’ll finally get to see all those Oscars movies from the past couple years. Haha! Anywho, thanks for putting up with all the wedding posts as of late. It’s been so fun to share all the details and photos. I think it will be really nice to have the posts to look back on. (And hopefully you find them fun to look at, too! Or even useful, if you’re planning your own wedding. Congrats!) Have a fantastic day, and here are some articles I think you should read…

How Elizabeth Holmes’s house of cards came tumbling down.

Why aren’t mental health professionals weighing in on Donald Trump?

Returning to Cuba 55 years after parents fled Castro’s regime.

Welp, my phone is clearly doomed.

Airlines are ill-equipped to handle accusations of sexual assault on their planes.

A decade in the life of our country’s wiliest coyote.

What happens to your body on a tea detox.

Lexington should leave its urban growth boundary alone.

An abortion provider in an anti-choice state.

I’m obsessed with this perfume commercial directed by Spike Jonze.

How Stranger Things channels the female frustration of being disbelieved.

Ingredients for a super luxurious spa night.

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Happy Wednesday! I landed in Lexington yesterday afternoon and am excited to get to work on all the final wedding preparations. So much to do! Before I left Miami, Chet (who will be flying in next week) surprised me with a new camera. I absolutely love it!!! I am the luckiest girl alive! I hope everyone has a great Wednesday, and now onto the links…

How to capsule your beauty products.

The cutest planter.

These teas sound AMAZING!

The long-term risks of early puberty.

Craigslist Confessional: Stealing office supplies to support family.

What we can learn from an Indonesian ethnicity that recognizes 5 genders.

I loved these books as a kid (especially the prairie one, obvi).

The serendipitous joys of traveling solo.

What to read once you’ve finished the latest season of OITNB.

Aziz Ansari on Trump.

America’s best little beach towns.

This is a long one but I HIGHLY recommend checking it out if you’ve got some spare time. It’s extremely eye-opening.

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How’s it hanging, love-bugs? This time next week I’ll be in Lexington! I’m flying up a couple weeks before our wedding to finish out all the preparations while Chet stays behind to teach. The final count-down is upon us! Flying with my wedding dress makes me a tad anxious, I’ll be honest. But I’m SO excited to be back in Lexington for the first time in almost a year. In the meantime, there’s plenty of prep left to do here in SoFlo. And we’ll also be taking it easy just enjoying each other and quiet nights at home before the madness ensues! Hope your week is extra fun-filled, and here are a few links for your enjoyment…

No one is building the suburban homes Millennial buyers want.

10 ways to give your kids a 1970’s summer.

An inside look at Bulgaria’s controversial bride market.

Instagram hashtags to organically grow your following.

Kim Kardashian West: “Settling down allowed her to turn up.”

The polyamorous christian socialist utopia that made silverware for proper Americans.

How YouTube videos can help people cope with mental illness.

Licking intensified. (Reminds me of Wink.)

The mysterious vlogger who changed the internet.

A former crisis pregnancy center volunteer tells all.

Audrey Hepburn’s newly discovered love letters.

The 38 essential Miami restaurants.

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What are you up to this week? Our wedding invitations are starting to show up in folk’s mailboxes and I’ve been giddily checking our online RSVP’s with WAY too much frequency. We also booked our tickets to Lexington last night. I’m really excited that I’ll be in Kentucky so soon! I opted to fly in earlier then Chet (he has to teach a summer class) so I can take care of all the last minute planning…as well as drink daily Ale-8’s and buy copious amounts of my favorite treats from Good Foods Co-op. Hope you’re all doing well and have some fun plans for this week. In the mean time, here are a dozen links for you to peruse…

Surviving for a week on gifted gift cards.

I’m learning that swivel seats are a must for luxurious van dwelling. (I have weird interests.)

How freaking cute are these watermelon coasters?

Students learn about Julia Child’s impact on American culture.

Comedian replies to email scammers and here’s what happens.

Thoughts on heels.

A notorious prison escape artist discovers a new (legal) way to lift life sentences.

Don’t judge a house by its exterior.

A great dinner to cook up when you’re feeling lazy.

Dreamy family camping trip.

I heart Amy Poehler.

Ikea tips and must-buys.

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What are you up to this week, loves? I’m trying to pace my viewing of House of Cards…but it’s HARD! Haha! How many have you watched? I loved hearing how many episodes my various co-workers got through over the weekend. Who says binge watching eliminates water cooler chats!? Also, I’ve been working on knitting projects and it’s a little bit addictive. Have a wonderful week, and enjoy these links I found just for YOU…

Where were you when you first saw #TheDress, lol!

Congrats to Haddy on this award-winning piece.

My granola gurus.

Genius ad campaign.

A little girls strong bond with birds.

Great longform piece, if you’re in the mood.

Candidly Nicole.

Boys buying tampons for their ladies.

Reason #49029 why I need a food processor.

Aspiring space colonist wishes to give birth on Mars.

Wouldn’t it be fun to start a travel themed book club?

The world works in mysterious ways. #bawling

 

mid-week round-up

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Hi! How’s the week going for you guys? My to-do lists have been super long the last few days. Isn’t the ramp-up in obligations and tasks around school startin’ time weird? It’s not like I had the whole summer off for vacay! For those of you who ARE starting school for the year, GOOD LUCK! I hope this semester goes fantastically and that you learn a whole bunch.

Here are a few neat posts from around the web…

Why one father has chosen not to tell his son he’s smart.

Sarah Silverman is my spirit animal.

What French kids eat for lunch.

Can you guess these famous first lines from classic novels when they’re written in emojis? (Number 12 made me laugh out loud.)

Former member of a tight-knit prayer group turned cult tells all.

Easy and delicious pasta dinner.

Running wild with Photoshop to examine global standards of beauty.

Pictures of communal living in the Netherlands.

Studies begin on the babies born with genetic material from 3 parents.

Do you have a non-Gmail email?

Neil DeGrasse Tyson is such a BAMF.

Miley Cyrus speaks out about homeless youth.

 

A rather grim hypothetical.

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A few weeks ago, I walked into a conversation between two of my co-workers wherein one was asking the other the rather macabre question, “Can you imagine a situation in which you would forget your baby was in the car with you?” New mother and resident recipient of all our childless, curiosity-driven questions, coworker number 2 emphatically answered; no, she could not imagine such a thing, her mommy senses were too strong. Butting my way into the conversation, I agreed; no, surely, if one was sober, mother or not you would just SENSE another person in the vehicle with you. I love hypotheticals as a means of making small-talk interesting and I’m sure by now you see where this particular hypothetical leads…if you DID forget your baby was in the car with you and you left it and it was hot out…the baby dies. A scenario which, if you consume any sort of news media, is repeated again and again…and again. Especially this time of year. In response to the hypothetical, all three of us were insistent that this would never happen to us. But it does happen. A lot.

My co-worker presenting the question had just read Gene Weingarten’s 2009 article Fatal Distraction: Forgetting a Child in the Backseat of a Car Is a Horrifying Mistake. Is It a Crime? from The Washington Post Magazine. She explained that the article posited, it’s way easier than we would think. My interest totally piqued, I pulled up the article that night after work and was completely sucked in. Longform journalism at it’s finest, the story is presented with twists and turns, heartbreaking personal accounts and bone-chilling statistics. But for me, it also flipped the stereotype I had in my head about the person who may, in completely undressed up language, accidentally kill their own kid. When I’d heard stories about this phenomenon in the past, my mind would draw up some drug-addled, barely functioning parent who, maybe not totally maliciously, was more focused on scoring their next high than caring for their offspring. Boy, was I wrong.

 

Here’s a teaser from the article, if you’d like a taste:

 

“Death by hyperthermia” is the official designation. When it happens to young children, the facts are often the same: An otherwise loving and attentive parent one day gets busy, or distracted, or upset, or confused by a change in his or her daily routine, and just… forgets a child is in the car. It happens that way somewhere in the United States 15 to 25 times a year, parceled out through the spring, summer and early fall…

Two decades ago, this was relatively rare. But in the early 1990s, car-safety experts declared that passenger-side front airbags could kill children, and they recommended that child seats be moved to the back of the car; then, for even more safety for the very young, that the baby seats be pivoted to face the rear. If few foresaw the tragic consequence of the lessened visibility of the child . . . well, who can blame them? What kind of person forgets a baby?

The wealthy do, it turns out. And the poor, and the middle class. Parents of all ages and ethnicities do it. Mothers are just as likely to do it as fathers. It happens to the chronically absent-minded and to the fanatically organized, to the college-educated and to the marginally literate. In the last 10 years, it has happened to a dentist. A postal clerk. A social worker. A police officer. An accountant. A soldier. A paralegal. An electrician. A Protestant clergyman. A rabbinical student. A nurse. A construction worker. An assistant principal. It happened to a mental health counselor, a college professor and a pizza chef. It happened to a pediatrician. It happened to a rocket scientist.

Last year it happened three times in one day, the worst day so far in the worst year so far in a phenomenon that gives no sign of abating.

The facts in each case differ a little, but always there is the terrible moment when the parent realizes what he or she has done, often through a phone call from a spouse or caregiver. This is followed by a frantic sprint to the car. What awaits there is the worst thing in the world.

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The article goes on to examine whether this atrocity is a court-ordered, punishable offense or whether the self-prescribed, guilt-ridden hell these parents must reside in for the there-after is punishment enough. After all, they have already lost their child. Weingarten cites statistics gathered by a childs’ safety advocacy group. 40% of these incidents are evaluated by the courts and deemed a horrific accident. 60% are aggressively pursued as a felony.

Wherever you fall in terms of how you think cases like these should be addressed, I recommend giving this article a read. It’s a riveting investigation into these parents’ fatal distraction. And your reaction to Weingarten’s words may very well surprise you.